Comments on: The Unavailable Man

By: Henn

Henn — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 16:00:59 +0000

Hi! I feel a little bit out of place still, but feels good to be living back here where I used to and see my friends. Decided to move back here for a year, probably gonna go see a therapist. Life has definitely not been easy but guess it’s not supposed to be.

I’ve just lost all interest in dating men :\

By: tryingtoheal

tryingtoheal — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 01:26:30 +0000

Hi, Henn….how are you doing?

By: tryingtoheal

tryingtoheal — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 00:01:34 +0000

Oh Henn….one can’t blame you for feeling like this. Girl – I am so sorry that you have so much that your having to deal with all at once. I wish there was something that could make you feel better now. I just know that the only way for you right now is to go up from all of this. Life is funny – sure seems to test us at the weirdest times. Sometimes it seems like all at once – just like what is happening to you. Just know this place is here for you to talk about it – we are here for you.

By: Henn

Henn — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 17:19:30 +0000

Hi! How are you all doing? How was your summer been?
I must admit I am a bit of a mess actually, ran into 3 wrong men for me, I’ve been feeling like agony just won’t leave me alone. It’s just not the heartbreak that I have, it’s everything else in my life, parents divorce, mom’s illness, best friends death over 2 years ago. Feels like I am simply but slowly, drowning. Any wise words, ideas?

By: Henn

Henn — Wed, 19 May 2010 20:27:07 +0000

We surely do!

By: Jaxon

Jaxon — Thu, 13 May 2010 05:40:42 +0000

Futty dear,
Way to go…as soon as he returns, you will still feel like wax next to a fire but dont black out, hold on to the fact that he won’t even care what you feel and nothing you can do or say can change that.

Haha, henn, glad you appreciated my perspective, thank you for helping futty, we kinda need each other that much. Thanks buddies

By: futty

futty — Wed, 12 May 2010 16:04:02 +0000

thank you guys, for the advices ill do my best to get over him cos dat the only favour i can do for myself and i think about him least these days, his a “piece of junk” lol jax said so. iknow i can do better than him, i dont know what i see in him anyway that makes me loose control.month end he is coming back from his experiantial training guess i can hold myself tight still.

By: Henn

Henn — Sun, 09 May 2010 07:26:47 +0000

Futty: oh man what a scumbag. Seriously, that is not a polite thing to do :\ Do you know if he just lead you on to get in touch with that distant friend? There’s no other way than try to forget all about him, hard I know, believe me I’ve been there many times, but time (and good angry music and cursing lol) helps!

Jaxon that was a great advice! After all the broken hearts I have had by this age (and I’m only 23 soon) I have never ever thought of it this way.

By: Jaxon

Jaxon — Sat, 08 May 2010 06:01:30 +0000

futty dear,
no telling how far you had gone with this fella. I learned one thing through this broken heart process. YOU’RE ON YOUR OWN IN REALITY…yes we share with you in your pain, but when you return to your bed, you feel its a bit comforting that someone understands your pain but believe me..it still stings you, not another. That fella, being a man I can tell you does not care even for the simplest part about you. The sooner you accept it the faster you heal. Think of it this way…We have world Cup coming up soon, elections all around the world, etc, etc, so much is going on without the two of you being together, why should your life stop. Actually, my mentor who helped me through this hurt told me this, of the 1.6 billion people in china, how many even know that fella exists?!…its amazing how he is so not important but for the concept in your head! While you are busy missing him, he is making a life, happy without you 100%. He is not worth it. We call them lovers of our lives but you know in reality they are the lovers of your friends, not you. He doesn’t want you, they never do…its those we love the most that need us the least. You will find someone that worships you…forget this ‘piece of junk’…year my dear, you wonder why I call him that, jump out of the cacoon and you will realize no one even notices that he is that special…let go of him, now it hurts but after a while, you will laugh at the experienceJax

By: futty

futty — Fri, 07 May 2010 10:29:32 +0000

helo guys, im so greatful to find out that im not alone, you also feel the same im 21 years old and i had a crush on this gey @school, he gave me the feeling of feeling the same way n so he led me on, until he started going aftre my distance friend they are together now, so he sent me an sms saying”i think this must come to an endcos it doesnt and it will never work,and despite that im not feeling comfortable with it, i tried to force myself but i cnt anymore.”this is so much to swallow he is the cenrte of my universe and we were doing very well. i dont see the reason to carry on. how do i get back on feet it seems like nobody cares i really need people to share my experience with.