Type of Relationship: Serious Dating

Status: Hoping to love again

It all started my Sophomore year of college. I had other relationships prior to this one, but when they ended I cried for a week, forgot about the guy, and moved on. This story ends differently.

Brian and I met at a party on Febuary 18th 2006 (it drives me crazy that I remember all these details). The night we met was literally a fairy tale. I remember the ridiculous butterflies, the intense nerves and after talking all night and him finally putting his hand on my neck I had fallen in love. It only took hours for me to feel the rush of falling in love.

The next few weeks were spent together. I barely saw my friends, and barely did homework or focused on the many clubs I was involved in. Brian consumed me. However, over the next few months the red flags started to flare. Brian hated his mother for divorcing his father and marrying someone he didn’t like. Brian was the victim of a split family, each valuing different things – his mother valued being down to earth, family, hard work, and not spoiling her kids. Brian’s father and his new wife valued material things, money, and all things (in my opinion) that should be of little value when raising children. As a result, Brian always thought he had a rough childhood when in reality he was just a brat who couldn’t appreciate anything-including me it turned out.

We dated for 3 years and I still have the love songs he wrote me, the cards he sent me, the memories, the pictures. Things went sour Senior year when Brian decided our relationship didn’t matter anymore- that his friends were all important and I was second rate. I should have seen the signs but I ignored them – perfect example of freewill vs. fate.

I loved him more than I have ever loved another human being. He broke up with me without notice or reason, claiming we were too young to be so serious and then found a new girlfriend 2 weeks later, with whom he is still with. I am in so much pain and it’s been almost a year. I don’t miss him anymore, but I miss the Brian I fell in love with 2 years ago, not the one that he is now. I have dated other people but nothing compares to the feelings I had. I hope that I am lucky enough to get a second chance.

Welcome to the Heartbreak Hotel. Your partner has just dealt a dagger to your soul, and you are worried you will never recover. He or she was your best friend, your lover; perhaps they occupied a part of your home, most certainly a piece of your heart. And now, the rug has been pulled out from under you. Without them, I am nothing, you fear. You are filled with sorrow—on the fringe of despair. You have broken up.

Dramatic? If you’ve ever suffered from a broken heart, you recognize the grief described is quite real. Trauma endured from a heartbreak can pervade every aspect of one’s life rendering some a prisoner to their own pain. Time irrefutably helps the healing process, yet thankfully, time is neither the only, nor most powerful healing agent.

“I knew I was falling completely, totally, hopelessly head-over-heels for this man. Maybe I couldn’t accept that right then. I know I was scared of being hurt again; jaded by one too many loves-gone-wrong. So, I kept my mouth shut.” Read full story

“About 6 years into the relationship, we decided to celebrate our commitment with a marriage-style commitment ceremony. We wrote our vows and I asked that he do only one thing for me – promise to tell me if he ever fell in love with someone else. I promised that if I ever had to let him go, I would do so with love. I just never thought it would actually happen.” Read full story

“We dated for 3 years and I still have the love songs he wrote me, the cards he sent me, the memories, the pictures. Things went sour Senior year when Brian decided our relationship didn’t matter anymore- that his friends were all important and I was second rate. I should have seen the signs but I ignored them – perfect example of freewill vs. fate.” Read full story

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