Comments on: In the beginning, I ran from his pursuit http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ranfromhispursuit Wed, 01 Feb 2012 02:12:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ruby http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ranfromhispursuit/comment-page-1#comment-4167 Ruby Thu, 12 May 2011 23:21:33 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=902#comment-4167 Thank you so much onetruequeen. Your message made me feel, well, if not better right at this moment at least hopeful that I won’t be shrouded in darkness forever. Like I said I feel foolish right now and what makes it worse is that I’m not a dumb woman yet I fell for this cr@p. I didn’t look for anything negative or bad because I didn’t think I had anything bad to find. I keep asking myself how I let this happen and yes if I’m honest I definitely have a fear of being alone and maybe that had a lot to do with being blind to so much and settling for less than I should have gotten. I do thank God everyday because I’m well aware things could have been or gotten much worse….I keep telling myself that as much as it hurts there are worse things that happen to people in this world and they do get through it and so will I. They’re the thoughts I have on my good days but on the bad days I feel as if I’m being choked by such  a huge sadness and the hurt is so unbearable theres nothing I wouldn’t do to rid myself of it. They’re the moments I feel like I have no way out. Reading the posts here helps, even if its over and over again, because I’m reminded that I’m not the only one who feels this kind of hurt and when I read on about how you can actually feel happiness again I do have hope….I just wish it would get here sooner and that I had those days more often.  Thank you so much for taking the time to respond, I can’t tell you how much it helped. Maybe you’re right about taking the time to heal myself inside and out, I have some pounds to shed too. I think its absolutely phenomenal that you lost so much weight! God bless you girl and I sincerely hope more love and happiness keep coming your way! Thank you so much onetruequeen. Your message made me feel, well, if not better right at this moment at least hopeful that I won’t be shrouded in darkness forever. Like I said I feel foolish right now and what makes it worse is that I’m not a dumb woman yet I fell for this cr@p. I didn’t look for anything negative or bad because I didn’t think I had anything bad to find. I keep asking myself how I let this happen and yes if I’m honest I definitely have a fear of being alone and maybe that had a lot to do with being blind to so much and settling for less than I should have gotten. I do thank God everyday because I’m well aware things could have been or gotten much worse….I keep telling myself that as much as it hurts there are worse things that happen to people in this world and they do get through it and so will I. They’re the thoughts I have on my good days but on the bad days I feel as if I’m being choked by such  a huge sadness and the hurt is so unbearable theres nothing I wouldn’t do to rid myself of it. They’re the moments I feel like I have no way out. Reading the posts here helps, even if its over and over again, because I’m reminded that I’m not the only one who feels this kind of hurt and when I read on about how you can actually feel happiness again I do have hope….I just wish it would get here sooner and that I had those days more often.  Thank you so much for taking the time to respond, I can’t tell you how much it helped. Maybe you’re right about taking the time to heal myself inside and out, I have some pounds to shed too. I think its absolutely phenomenal that you lost so much weight! God bless you girl and I sincerely hope more love and happiness keep coming your way!

]]> By: Onetruequeen http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ranfromhispursuit/comment-page-1#comment-4151 Onetruequeen Tue, 03 May 2011 17:09:38 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=902#comment-4151 Hey Ruby, I know life feels confusing right now but it most definitely will get better with time. I know it sounds cliche', but you will love again & you will fill whole again. Dont let this clown take from your soul anymore. Dont give him any power! He doesnt deserve it and thank god you found out sooner than later. I felt like a fool as well and quite frankly, I can now admit that I was foolish. The warning signs were all there but I chose to put on those "rose tinted glasses". I didnt think I would ever get over it but one day I woke up and there was no more rain in my clouds. Take the time to focus on yourself and improve yourself. Mentally, physically and spiritually. Be honest with yourself & figure out how you allowed this to happen. We do have a lil responsibility as people will only do what we allow them to do. I am thankful for all the bad and the good that came out of all of this. It has made me a better person all the way around. I focused my time on health and fitness and have lost 125lbs in the last 14months. I feel wonderful and the way I feel inside is pricele$$... and the best part is that he wishes he could be a part of my new life but I love myself enough today to know that I deserve better and so do you! Peace & Blessings..... Hey Ruby, I know life feels confusing right now but it most definitely will get better with time. I know it sounds cliche’, but you will love again & you will fill whole again. Dont let this clown take from your soul anymore. Dont give him any power! He doesnt deserve it and thank god you found out sooner than later. I felt like a fool as well and quite frankly, I can now admit that I was foolish. The warning signs were all there but I chose to put on those “rose tinted glasses”. I didnt think I would ever get over it but one day I woke up and there was no more rain in my clouds. Take the time to focus on yourself and improve yourself. Mentally, physically and spiritually. Be honest with yourself & figure out how you allowed this to happen. We do have a lil responsibility as people will only do what we allow them to do. I am thankful for all the bad and the good that came out of all of this. It has made me a better person all the way around. I focused my time on health and fitness and have lost 125lbs in the last 14months. I feel wonderful and the way I feel inside is pricele$$… and the best part is that he wishes he could be a part of my new life but I love myself enough today to know that I deserve better and so do you! Peace & Blessings…..

]]> By: Ruby http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ranfromhispursuit/comment-page-1#comment-4139 Ruby Thu, 28 Apr 2011 09:26:19 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=902#comment-4139 I just recently went thru a heartache of my own & I happened to find this site. It helped reading it. Even tho I know it will get easier with time at the moment because its fresh the pain feels like it's going to kill me. I go to sleep hoping to not wake up until it passes. I gave over 3 years to a man who had a whole other life & family. I'm in debt because of the financial help I gave him & because it was a long distance relationship I had no clue. Even when we went away together to meet I had no idea. The way I found out was when his wife saw his cell phone & my messages & calls that she called me to confront me. Can you imagine my shock & hurt? Not to mention his poor wife & kids. He broke so many people with what he did. I felt completely numb at first. It took a few hours for the tears to hit & when they did, I couldnt stop crying. I feel so used & betrayed & like the biggest fool on earth. I feel like there's no light at the end of the tunnel. Its been a while since you ladies posted a message & I'd love to hear how you are all getting on. Please know I said a prayer for all our hearts to heal. I just recently went thru a heartache of my own & I happened to find this site. It helped reading it. Even tho I know it will get easier with time at the moment because its fresh the pain feels like it’s going to kill me. I go to sleep hoping to not wake up until it passes. I gave over 3 years to a man who had a whole other life & family. I’m in debt because of the financial help I gave him & because it was a long distance relationship I had no clue. Even when we went away together to meet I had no idea. The way I found out was when his wife saw his cell phone & my messages & calls that she called me to confront me. Can you imagine my shock & hurt? Not to mention his poor wife & kids. He broke so many people with what he did. I felt completely numb at first. It took a few hours for the tears to hit & when they did, I couldnt stop crying. I feel so used & betrayed & like the biggest fool on earth. I feel like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. Its been a while since you ladies posted a message & I’d love to hear how you are all getting on. Please know I said a prayer for all our hearts to heal.

]]> By: JJ http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ranfromhispursuit/comment-page-1#comment-2154 JJ Tue, 27 Apr 2010 15:04:04 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=902#comment-2154 onetruequeen... Your story has inspired me! you are a very strong person and i'm so happy that you have moved on and now understand that you deserve so much better. I hope that one day I can feel the same way... I know I will it's just hard in this very moment. Thank you for sharing your story I'm sure it has helped many :) onetruequeen… Your story has inspired me! you are a very strong person and i’m so happy that you have moved on and now understand that you deserve so much better. I hope that one day I can feel the same way… I know I will it’s just hard in this very moment. Thank you for sharing your story I’m sure it has helped many :)

]]> By: onetruequeen http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ranfromhispursuit/comment-page-1#comment-2094 onetruequeen Sun, 18 Apr 2010 15:41:23 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=902#comment-2094 Its been 4 months now and Im much better. Time does make it easier, not saying it heals, but it does make it easier. I have some bad days but I just deal with it and move thru it. Your broken heart will get better. I was a mess for about 2 months and then one day, it was gone from my daily thoughts. The hardest part for me is how someone you've been so good to mentally, emotionally & financially could just up and leave without so much of an apology. Where do these people come from? On the flip side, I have lost 50lbs in the last 5 months and feel so GREAT!!! I find happiness in hearing about his shortcomings recently. He lost his job, is having bad luck & is being evicted soon. Poor baby. Ask me if im bitter and you will get a big YES! Ask me would I ever go back to him...HELL TO THE NO! Although Im still angry, my head is in the right place today. Someone like that definitely has no room in my life. He is so beneath me! And to everyone still in pain, it will get better! Its been 4 months now and Im much better. Time does make it easier, not saying it heals, but it does make it easier. I have some bad days but I just deal with it and move thru it. Your broken heart will get better. I was a mess for about 2 months and then one day, it was gone from my daily thoughts. The hardest part for me is how someone you’ve been so good to mentally, emotionally & financially could just up and leave without so much of an apology. Where do these people come from? On the flip side, I have lost 50lbs in the last 5 months and feel so GREAT!!! I find happiness in hearing about his shortcomings recently. He lost his job, is having bad luck & is being evicted soon. Poor baby. Ask me if im bitter and you will get a big YES! Ask me would I ever go back to him…HELL TO THE NO! Although Im still angry, my head is in the right place today. Someone like that definitely has no room in my life. He is so beneath me! And to everyone still in pain, it will get better!

]]> By: Abby http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ranfromhispursuit/comment-page-1#comment-2090 Abby Sat, 17 Apr 2010 14:21:06 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=902#comment-2090 hi onetruequeen, i read your post and let me say i deeply feel for you, that man just took advantage of you, after you made his life better, made him love himself more he felt that he didn't need you anymore, he is just an insecure bastard who needed someone to make him feel important and when he got just that he left you without any logical explanation, or any apology!... I am very sorry for you, this kind of heartbreak is the worst of all, when you get hit out of nowhere, and then you realise what a fool you've beena and not seen the signs, when you were just having that anniversary dinner, that trip or whatever it was he was still in contact with "the other woman"... I wish there was something that could take all of your pain away, everyone here has a painful story to tell, and i know the lonliness you must feel, as if you don't matter anymore, no one loves you, or that you should just give up on life.. We often find people whom we love more than our life, and we make scarifices for them, put their wishes and dreams before us and they hurt us without even thinking twice about the horrible pain we will feel, these people are cowards, they are worse than animals, they have no guilt, no remorse, no heart at all! The pain can only be healedwith time, but remember one thing, if the person was such a jerk that he left you like this then he didn't deserve to be with you at all, god works in mysterious ways, maybe this was a favor of god upon you, ending it horribly so that you can once and for all let go of such a man and look for something much better and worthwhile in your life... It is always the good people that get hurt, it is our penalty for being as kindhearted as we are in this cruel world, just remember, you never did anything wrong, you offered all your love and more, he is entirely at fault here for not realising how good you were, for not appreciating you or loving you the way he should have, atleast now you will not live with guilt that "maybe if i had done this, maybe if i had done that, it would've worked out..." No, it would'nt, you did everything you could, you gave that person your heart on a platter, thats how much you loved them, you are a good person, a great person and great things will come in your life.. Often such men realise that the "new girl" they're with is less considerate and less loving, soon they realise their mistakes and some of them come crying back, some of them don't come back cuz of the guilt they feel, how will they face you after what they did?!, and some of them just keep lying to themselves telling themselves that they made the right decision and that they are happy even when they are not! such people are miserable and will never truly be happy, cuz they had happiness with you and failed to realise it.. Just don't give up hope, you are not alone, all of us here, we are all with you, and you will always have someone to comfort you, friends, family, and us the many heartbroken people from around the world.. He made his choice, so what, to hell with him, he doesn't deserve you, now you can start focusing on your life.Just remember its never too late, go on that trip which you always wanted, join that photography class you've been thinking about but never really got the chance, volunteer at some environmental or church group, just get yourself out there, you have lots of love to give but it was all wasted on a pathetic man, so now start putting your heart in more productive places, utilize that love you have, and put it into something you've always had passion for, focuse on yourself for a while, its crucial to the healing process, i know it may all seem like you've heard it all before and the pain is hard to forget but trust me, the first step will always be difficult, but after taking the first step the healing process will get much easier and you can and will be happy again, it is your right to be happy.. I will pray for you, all of you here and i wish you all the best of luck, we may all be broken but we're not alone..... hi onetruequeen,

i read your post and let me say i deeply feel for you, that man just took advantage of you, after you made his life better, made him love himself more he felt that he didn’t need you anymore, he is just an insecure bastard who needed someone to make him feel important and when he got just that he left you without any logical explanation, or any apology!…
I am very sorry for you, this kind of heartbreak is the worst of all, when you get hit out of nowhere, and then you realise what a fool you’ve beena and not seen the signs, when you were just having that anniversary dinner, that trip or whatever it was he was still in contact with “the other woman”…
I wish there was something that could take all of your pain away, everyone here has a painful story to tell, and i know the lonliness you must feel, as if you don’t matter anymore, no one loves you, or that you should just give up on life..
We often find people whom we love more than our life, and we make scarifices for them, put their wishes and dreams before us and they hurt us without even thinking twice about the horrible pain we will feel, these people are cowards, they are worse than animals, they have no guilt, no remorse, no heart at all!
The pain can only be healedwith time, but remember one thing, if the person was such a jerk that he left you like this then he didn’t deserve to be with you at all, god works in mysterious ways, maybe this was a favor of god upon you, ending it horribly so that you can once and for all let go of such a man and look for something much better and worthwhile in your life…
It is always the good people that get hurt, it is our penalty for being as kindhearted as we are in this cruel world, just remember, you never did anything wrong, you offered all your love and more, he is entirely at fault here for not realising how good you were, for not appreciating you or loving you the way he should have, atleast now you will not live with guilt that “maybe if i had done this, maybe if i had done that, it would’ve worked out…” No, it would’nt, you did everything you could, you gave that person your heart on a platter, thats how much you loved them, you are a good person, a great person and great things will come in your life..
Often such men realise that the “new girl” they’re with is less considerate and less loving, soon they realise their mistakes and some of them come crying back, some of them don’t come back cuz of the guilt they feel, how will they face you after what they did?!, and some of them just keep lying to themselves telling themselves that they made the right decision and that they are happy even when they are not!
such people are miserable and will never truly be happy, cuz they had happiness with you and failed to realise it..
Just don’t give up hope, you are not alone, all of us here, we are all with you, and you will always have someone to comfort you, friends, family, and us the many heartbroken people from around the world..
He made his choice, so what, to hell with him, he doesn’t deserve you, now you can start focusing on your life.Just remember its never too late, go on that trip which you always wanted, join that photography class you’ve been thinking about but never really got the chance, volunteer at some environmental or church group, just get yourself out there, you have lots of love to give but it was all wasted on a pathetic man, so now start putting your heart in more productive places, utilize that love you have, and put it into something you’ve always had passion for, focuse on yourself for a while, its crucial to the healing process, i know it may all seem like you’ve heard it all before and the pain is hard to forget but trust me, the first step will always be difficult, but after taking the first step the healing process will get much easier and you can and will be happy again, it is your right to be happy..

I will pray for you, all of you here and i wish you all the best of luck, we may all be broken but we’re not alone…..

]]> By: Samantha http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ranfromhispursuit/comment-page-1#comment-1944 Samantha Tue, 23 Mar 2010 09:52:10 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=902#comment-1944 Hi.. onetruequeen, I saw your situation.. I feel so sad about it. How could that man did that to you? So horroble.. I was with my boyfriend for almost 2 years... but we over because of his family.. I asked what's wrong of me? we love each other so much How could the God seperated us by this way? I cried day by day.. Now... I learn to be thankful.. I knew he didn't want to leave me too.. But... It's not allow to do every thing as what we want to do.. We have to accept it and let it go... Maybe really time can dilute every thing day after day... I will learn to forget those things bad.. And remember every good memories in my life... Your life is not the end at this point.. You still have future Don't give up.. because it's your life :) Hi.. onetruequeen,
I saw your situation.. I feel so sad about it.
How could that man did that to you?
So horroble..

I was with my boyfriend for almost 2 years…
but we over because of his family..
I asked what’s wrong of me? we love each other so much
How could the God seperated us by this way?
I cried day by day..

Now… I learn to be thankful..
I knew he didn’t want to leave me too..
But… It’s not allow to do every thing as what we want to do..
We have to accept it and let it go…

Maybe really time can dilute every thing day after day…
I will learn to forget those things bad..
And remember every good memories in my life…

Your life is not the end at this point..
You still have future

Don’t give up.. because it’s your life :)

]]> By: onetruequeen http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ranfromhispursuit/comment-page-1#comment-1639 onetruequeen Sat, 02 Jan 2010 18:57:53 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=902#comment-1639 I was with him for 4 years. I loved him deeply! He was a few years younger than I so I didnt pay him too much attention in the beginning. Then, I fell in love with him. I became his confident,lover,nurse,psychologist,secretary,friend (I thought). I helped him get his life together on so many levels. Mentally & spiritually. We never argued & respected each others needs for personal space. We were friends, I thought. I was nothing but good to his man. When his daughter was taken & put into foster care, I was the one who pushed him to get his daughter & she came to live with us. I was "Solid" according to him and he said he would never leave me because I was the "best thing that ever came into his life", he said I helped him to love himself. Thanksgiving was a great day for us. We spent it with family and everything was all good. On December 12,2009 I got up and went to the grocery store. When I came back, he was getting dressed and said he going to the barber shop. He left. 5 mins later I went into my bedroom to get something out of the closet and ALL OF HIS STUFF WAS GONE! I went to the bathroom and ALL GONE! I called him but he didnt answer. I went to where he was & asked him "what the hell is going on"? He said coldly, "Im not feeling you anymore"! I repeated what he said because I couldnt believe that someone would be so cold as to say something like that to my face. I then very calmly asked him for my house keys, got into my car & left in tears. I have cried everyday since then. Fast forward to today and he has never apologized to me and is now living with a chick I busted him with 6 months ago. I am devastated! I have no understanding how he could do me so wrong. Thats the part Im having a rough time with, Im okay with the fact that he doesnt want to be with me but what Im not okay with was his method of our separation and the fact that he never broke the affair off 6 months ago. Been seeing her all along. Been playing me, straight up! I believe in the strength of the lord and know that this too shall pass, but my heart is broken for now & im working on putting it back together. Thanx for letting me get this off my heart because just putting it to words has helped me already. Pray for me.. I was with him for 4 years. I loved him deeply! He was a few years younger than I so I didnt pay him too much attention in the beginning. Then, I fell in love with him. I became his confident,lover,nurse,psychologist,secretary,friend (I thought). I helped him get his life together on so many levels. Mentally & spiritually. We never argued & respected each others needs for personal space. We were friends, I thought. I was nothing but good to his man. When his daughter was taken & put into foster care, I was the one who pushed him to get his daughter & she came to live with us. I was “Solid” according to him and he said he would never leave me because I was the “best thing that ever came into his life”, he said I helped him to love himself. Thanksgiving was a great day for us. We spent it with family and everything was all good. On December 12,2009 I got up and went to the grocery store. When I came back, he was getting dressed and said he going to the barber shop. He left. 5 mins later I went into my bedroom to get something out of the closet and ALL OF HIS STUFF WAS GONE! I went to the bathroom and ALL GONE! I called him but he didnt answer. I went to where he was & asked him “what the hell is going on”? He said coldly, “Im not feeling you anymore”! I repeated what he said because I couldnt believe that someone would be so cold as to say something like that to my face. I then very calmly asked him for my house keys, got into my car & left in tears. I have cried everyday since then. Fast forward to today and he has never apologized to me and is now living with a chick I busted him with 6 months ago. I am devastated! I have no understanding how he could do me so wrong. Thats the part Im having a rough time with, Im okay with the fact that he doesnt want to be with me but what Im not okay with was his method of our separation and the fact that he never broke the affair off 6 months ago. Been seeing her all along. Been playing me, straight up! I believe in the strength of the lord and know that this too shall pass, but my heart is broken for now & im working on putting it back together. Thanx for letting me get this off my heart because just putting it to words has helped me already. Pray for me..

]]> By: annonymous girl http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ranfromhispursuit/comment-page-1#comment-1636 annonymous girl Sat, 02 Jan 2010 08:38:25 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=902#comment-1636 hi there, i totally understand what u went through few months back. coz i am actually facing the same thing now. the difference was, we werent childhood friends. but he is friend i knew years back. however, we got closer through online for the past six months. like u have mentioned, everything went well online. we were expressing our likings towards each other when we exchanged emails in the second or third month. we even stay up late to chat with one another. I was all excited when i knew he is coming back in 2 weeks time. like it or not, on the week he arrived, he gave excuses for not meeting up with me and all sort.. all the plans we had were gone down the drain. actually, he said he like me but not in a hurry to be commited. all i ever ask for was not commitment but getting to know each other well..nevertheless, it was a heart breaking moment. but i am conscious enough not to wait any longer..=) everything is well and as this year begin, everything will be good. as for the writer, u knew how i felt right now..take care hi there, i totally understand what u went through few months back. coz i am actually facing the same thing now. the difference was, we werent childhood friends. but he is friend i knew years back. however, we got closer through online for the past six months. like u have mentioned, everything went well online. we were expressing our likings towards each other when we exchanged emails in the second or third month. we even stay up late to chat with one another. I was all excited when i knew he is coming back in 2 weeks time. like it or not, on the week he arrived, he gave excuses for not meeting up with me and all sort.. all the plans we had were gone down the drain. actually, he said he like me but not in a hurry to be commited. all i ever ask for was not commitment but getting to know each other well..nevertheless, it was a heart breaking moment. but i am conscious enough not to wait any longer..=) everything is well and as this year begin, everything will be good. as for the writer, u knew how i felt right now..take care

]]> By: Jas http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ranfromhispursuit/comment-page-1#comment-525 Jas Sat, 15 Aug 2009 05:19:25 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=902#comment-525 hi there, this is very sad story. i am sorry to hear you went through all this ! well you did a good thing by not giving him a second chance because what he did was the worst thing one could do. you see i have been through something similar to this but my case was very serious both of us were going to get married but i found he was cheating on me so i left him. it was very hard but he came 3 times asking for forgiveness and tells me he wants to marry me but i decided never to talk to him. it's very hard to find love in this century. its been 2 years since my break-up and am still broken but i am doing better. just have hope and you will find someone who would care for you and will never make you cry at all. here's quote that i like the most, "No man is worth your tears, and when you find the man who is, he'll never make you cry." Anonymous . good luck sister. may you be blessed with love. take care hi there, this is very sad story. i am sorry to hear you went through all this ! well you did a good thing by not giving him a second chance because what he did was the worst thing one could do. you see i have been through something similar to this but my case was very serious both of us were going to get married but i found he was cheating on me so i left him. it was very hard but he came 3 times asking for forgiveness and tells me he wants to marry me but i decided never to talk to him. it’s very hard to find love in this century. its been 2 years since my break-up and am still broken but i am doing better. just have hope and you will find someone who would care for you and will never make you cry at all. here’s quote that i like the most, “No man is worth your tears, and when you find the man who is, he’ll never make you cry.” Anonymous . good luck sister. may you be blessed with love. take care

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