“Changing the destructive things you say to yourself when you experience the setbacks that life deals all of us is the central skill of optimism.” -Dr. Martin Seligman, former President of The American Psychological Association and the founding father of Positive Psychology.
I felt my heart ripped out of my chest and my world turned upside after the divorce. At the time, a close friend advised, “Positive thinking, Amelie – it’s what will get you through this.”
I nodded. While I loved her care and best intentions, I wanted to scream, “Are you kidding me?! Haven’t you ever lost love in your life? Don’t you understand your advice to think positively is an impossible mission?”
You may have friends and family that mean well, but give you the advice to embrace positive thinking. The problem is that our mind has a tendency to play a soundtrack of repeating negative thoughts after a break up. The recurring negativity may sound something like this:
“I’m going to be alone forever.”
“I must be doing something wrong – this keeps happening.”
“I’m never going to feel that way again.”
Sound familiar?
Canceling out these negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones is not an easy task; however, as your friends, family, and even inner self recognizes, the practice of positive thinking will help you take a tremendous step on the path towards healing.
So, how do you do it?
Forget positive thinking for a moment and focus instead on what I call positive speaking. The story you tell yourself and the world – the power of these words – has an incredible impact on your emotional state. So, change your story. Replace your negativity with positivity. Wait, isn’t this the same thing as positive thinking? No! Wait, am I asking you to say things you actually don’t believe? No! Let me give you an example.
After your break up, you may be saying to yourself and others, “I’m never going to get over this. Everything in my life is terrible.” You may feel this is a way of venting your pain; however, expressing the sentiment in such a permanent and exaggerated form is actually going to perpetuate your suffering.
I understand you may have lost the person your love, the one other person in the world that you could rely on, and the one you called your soulmate. I understand this pain, because I have been there myself. In light of this, I can tell you with confidence that you will feel better. I can tell you without a doubt, these feelings will pass. In fact, you do not just have to wait for time to go by to heal your wounds – there are actions you can take to help relieve your pain and one of them includes positive speaking.
To begin the process of positive speaking, sit quietly and listen to your inner voice. You will hear hope inside of yourself – hope to feel better and rekindle the spirit of your dreams. Please respect this hope. Your being and spirit do not truly believe that you will never heal from this break up. Do not let your pain overtake your drive for peace, hope, dreams, and to live your life once again with burning passion.
Start speaking in a more realistic, positive manner. Reevaluate your exaggerated feelings and words, and instead, start speaking about your challenges as they truly are: temporary and isolated to a particular part of your life. In changing the words you speak out loud, you will change the words you speak internally. Hence, your positive speaking will influence your internal dialogue and produce positive thinking.
Replace your original statement: “I’m never going to get over this.”
With a more positive statement: “My pain is temporary and there is hope for the future.”
Replace your original statement: “Everything in my life is terrible.”
With a more realistic statement: “This break up is a huge challenge in my life, but I am grateful for my children [or insert something for which you are still grateful].”
Do you engage in negative thinking that could be flipped to positive speaking? Share your thoughts below.
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Source & Inspiration for this article: Seligman, Martin E. P. Learned optimism / Martin E.P. Seligman ; Random House Australia, Milsons Point, N.S.W. : 1992
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Yesterday was strange. The an e-mail from my ex said she wanted to pick up the bed frame at 5:30pm so it “would not interfere with my evening” which was strange as she rarely thought about anyone else. So I agreed. Then midday she sent another e-mail that it was now her Mom, Dad and two nephews because they were all going to dinner and picking her up a couch. Should be around 7:30 and finished with “sorry if that messes up your evening” (more like it). She showed up at 8:30. The family was cordial, loaded up the frame and left. On a positive note, the last time I saw her 3 months ago I was still vulnerable. Seeing her again last night was not a big deal, almost indifferent like she is no longer part of my life anymore. There is hope.
Wow everyone. The ups and downs of the life we are in right now. We have to hold on to our strength for dear life and stand our ground. No matter what. Hold on.
Keith… I smell progress
M and Allie and Keith .. I send you big hugs
Xx
Keith, I praise you on the great strength to even see her. If it was me, I would have one of my family deal with it, especially when the pain is still fresh. But at the same if you didn’t see how, you wouldn’t know how strong you are.
The pain is better for me. I still think about him everyday but it’s less painful. I guess the fact I don’t see him or hear about him makes it better. I do not want to know what he is doing or what he’s up to. I tried to avoid facebook to avoid any chance of getting expose to him. Even though we are not friends on facebook but we do have common friends so Im avoiding it all together. I find that really helpful.
The problem right now is money. Even though Im helping my mom but Im not getting paid. She has a lot of bills so trying to help out as much as possible. I just hate the idea of worrying about money.
Thanks for the encouragement, it was stressful leading up to the meeting and I should have made it under my own schedule and not hers. But I knew that I would dwell on it until it happened. The hardest past was seeing her family that was ripped from my life.
I hated Facebook before and I hate it worse now. I constantly struggle with keeping up with her via mutual friends. But I made it a goal day-by-day that I wouldn’t. You may laugh but I wrote my 3 beginning goals down each morning and crossed them off at the end of the day. The first was eating 3 meals, second was not going on Facebook, third was exercise.
As far as money, that is something we all worry about. Actually it is not money but the future because whatever your situation is now, people tend to magnify it forward. The first thing I did back in February was put a budget together, then I started cutting corners until it is was manageable and started living within those lines. It is half a year later and I found that I am still OK.
Hugs and kisses to everyone on yet another Friday. Let’s make it a point to find something fun to do this weekend so we can post it on Monday.
Oh, and without trying to sound like a hypocrite but the first thing I did when I read the e-mail from my ex that she wanted the bed frame? I called my relative so she could go on Facebook and check it out. We are strong…but not all the time.
Happy Monday, I hope everyone did something fun over the weekend. Friday night I took all the boxes of my ex-wife’s stuff downstairs into storage. Saturday I spent the day with my buddy and his girlfriend in Michigan at Weko Beach and had a fantastic Kurdish dinner. Sunday I met up with my divorce support group at a local restaraunt and after dinner had everyone over for a late night swim.
After seeing my ex last week Monday, I needed a good social weekend and thank God above my prayers were answered. Hugs to everyone and stay strong.
Dear Keith,
I am so glad you were busy and did something fun this weekend. I went to the comedy club Friday and stayed out dancing until 1AM. First time in the longest time.
I worked on my side jobs Saturday (I was pooped!!!!) and chilled at home yesterday.
One thing brought a smile to my face. All of the sudden a light came on and I thought, “This is it” I guess we all have to go through this pain once in our life.
Once we go through it thit is it, this is is once in a lifetime stuff!!!!!
We will never go through this again! (I hope).
We just have to hang in there!!!!
XOXOXOXO Lots of hugs!!!!
M.
Hi all,
Im glad you guys had a great weekend. I have a great time myself. Didn’t really do anything as exciting as you guys, but I did have a great time. Spent the whole day hanging out/studying with one of my friend and we met up with some guy friends to go dinner, window shopping and the movies. We saw Toy Story 3. The movie was so cute. =) hehehe.
It’s nice to have a relaxing weekend with good companies. And next weekend we might go check out a Watermelon Festivale in town. It’s just nice to do something different. Even though I still think about him everyday….but the excruciating pain has lessen. Slowly but surely getting my life back. =)
Wish you guys the best of LUCK!!!
XOXO
Hey Mrs. Allie,
Nice to hear you had a good weekend. I am going to wait for Toy Story 3 when it comes out on DVD. I cant wait to see the new Will Farrell movie “The other Guys” I might go tonight with my daughter. Anything to keep my mind occuppied. Also remember Eat, Pray, Love is coming out on the 13th. We should all go see that. In the book she goes through the same pain we all are. She was very close to commiting suicide. The whole story is about looking & finding her own happiness. WE ALL NEED THAT!!!!
I am so happy you are away from him. I try not to look at my ex and just keep on working. It is really hard when he gets really chatty and worse when he mentions his girlfriend. It just tears me apart. I just keep it cool and try to talk to him about work and nothing else. I should have won an Oscar by now!!!!
I have promised myself to go out or do something with friends at least once a week and I am keeping my promise. I am either going bowling or Kareoke this weekend!
Let us know how the watermelon festival went.
Lots of Hugs and Good Wishes
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo M
Hi you guys. I lost my voice just after I left work on Friday and pretty much Hung around home .. my sinus was draining and irritated my throat and my neck glands were inflamed. It sounds bad but really wasn’t so bad. I was ok by Monday. But it looks like as soon as I start talking I start getting horse again. So trying to minimize my talking
I am so thrilled to hear the energy from you guys. Even if there is still heartache, I sense improved outlooks .. good vibes .. overall really great progress. I am sooooo happy to see. Yep M this IS it.
Have a wonderful night.
Kisses
M, I want to read the book before I want to go watch the movie. Was going to pick it up at the bookstore few weeks ago, but it didn’t have the cover I want. I want the original print not the movie print, but I did pick up another book called ” the girl with the dragon tattoo.” Only read the first chapter, so can’t really tell you if it’s good or not. But I heard they are going to make a movie out of it so I want to read it before it comes out in the theatre.
I been really good and making progress. Today my ex emailed me…he didn’t even bother to write any content in the email, just a subject line asking if Im okay. I didn’t cry or get upset this time. I just brush it off….if he doesn’t make an effort to even compose a decent letter why should i even take an effort to reply. What’s the point of it all…it’s just going to open new wounds. I didn’t reply or anything and going to leave it just that. Im proud of myself for having this power of not letting him get to me this time. I think in time I will fully forget about him… =)
Allie I am so proud of you!!!! Send me some of that strenght will you? It was a very down night for me last night and I am trying to keep it all together today.
Let me know if you like “Girl With The Dragon Tattoo”.
Jade Sorry that you are not feeling well. Hope you get better soon!!!!
Keith-How Ya Doing???
xoxoxoxoxoxo M
Keith, Jade & Allie,
M.
Forgot to tell you, YOU MUST go & see “The Other Guys”!!!! I am telling you is the best laugh out loud, bust a rib time, Ive had in a long while!!
M, sending strength your way….hope you feel it. YOU CAN DO IT!!!! Seriously, cutting all ties really helped. I thought I can never do it…but now I’m optimistic than ever. Not sure if I will find the “one” but the feeling of “I’m okay without him” is great. When we were together I constant felt hopeless, disappointment, anxiety, anger and betrayal. Now I feel a sense of peace…if there is no expectation there’s no disappointment. Take all the love you feel for him and put it on you, family, friends..etc. BUT not him. I realized I wasted so much love on him and what do I get??? LIES and BETRAYAL. I don’t want to spend another 2 years, and another 2, another 2 on someone like that. Right now, I am focusing on my family and myself. I don’t want to see my life pass me by and next thing you know I’m 50, single, broke, and alone.
Find strength within yourself…you CAN DO IT!!!
i love this site x]
Hi Allie,
All those things you said you were feeling while you were there are the things I feel on a daily basis even when I try not to let that happen. Trust me If I did not have my daughter to support I would have been long gone. I am trying my darnest to focus on my free time, my time away from him but you know how it goes there are good days and then there are the HORRIBLE DAYS! In the meantime I am going to live vicariously through you, so girl HAVE A GREAT TIME FOR THE 2 OF US!!!!! Thank you for all the love, strenght and support, trust me I can feel it!!!! I AM SO PROUD AND HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!!
xoxoxoxoxoxox M
Shanice-Welcome to our club.
Shanice.. yes.. this site is so wonderful. I hope you get out of it as much as I did. Allie M and Keith .. you are my inspirations and strength. By talking to you and sharing our pain .. its given me an outlet and strength to hold my head up high.
I sooooo want to see the other guys. I’m glad you liked it. I will have to ck out love eat pray when it comes out .. sounds like I might relate to some of the things.
Allie.. yesssssa!!! No answer is THE BEST thing. He is going like .. hmmm.. she is no longer panting over me… kill his ego!!! I love it!!! His email was OBVIOUSLY not necessary … even though you might say it was a nice gesture to ck on you.. I call BS!!! He just wants to make sure he is still under your skin and under his little finger. Wants to be not forgotten so he will send random emails to keep you in his pocket so to speak. Don’t fall for it ever!! You are not falling for it now but don’t slip in the future.. you had excellent instinct not to respond.
Good night
Smooches guys.
M, it’s definitely hard…took me one year to finally say enough is enough and truly mean it and stuck with it. Sometimes it just take one lie, one incident to spark that fire within you to leave. I guess part of me didn’t leave before bc I still had a lot of bills to pay off. I wasn’t done with school and I didn’t want to stop going b/c of money issues and I think he knew that, that’s why he used it against me. Now that Im done, I have less money issue to worry about. He no longer have something to tie me down.
You can do it!!! And you will when time is right. Don’t ever lose hope and don’t let him have power over you. My love is with you!!! =)
Welcome Shanice. In a weird way I wouldn’t be able to find strength without M, Keith, and Jade, and hopefully this site will help you find what you are looking for. =)
Jade, I have no idea what was his intentions, but whatever it is, it’s not my problem anymore. I’m still staying strong and hopefully one day I will wake up and not think of him. Remember how I told you that I would check my phone and emails to see if he calls or text me? Well I’m still doing that…but it’s less frequent. I call it progress, hehehe. =)
This has been an interesting week. Monday I received a “wink” from the dating website and it has already blossomed into possibly meeting tomorrow night. From what I have seen online, I am going into it with open eyes though…trust me. The next couple of weeks are action packed to say the least. I have family coming in a week from Saturday and am hosting a backyard pool party (the last one I had 30 plus people show up). The on the 26th I turn forty two…yep old man time. But I really don’t feel like I am getting old, I look at it as one more step toward being able to steal batteries from Walmart. Don’t forget the challenge of finding something fun to do over the weekend it is right around the corner again.
Shanice, welcome with open arms.
Thanx for welcoming me
he make me forget
)
I’ve been here before though ..
I think I got over my broken heart .
I been seeing this guy for like a few weeks now
He’s awsome
The past .. we always have something to
Talk about .. He makes my day everyday he walks me to school every morning .. sometimes pick me up after school
Cuz I’m in high school .. He’s amazing
So glad you’ve healed Shanice. And found someone to make you happy. Let’s hope we all get there.
Keith, my goodness. Your calendar is FULL. Wonderful. Good luck with the date. You never know what it could turn into. It might surprise you.
I have a full weekend planned. Going out tonight and tomorrow. And all kinds of meetings and chores in between.
Ok I am getting ready for work.
Ttyl
Hi Keith, Jade, Allie
I have not seen any postings from you recently so I hope eveyone is ok and doing better. I am wondering how Keith’s date went. Does anyone knows?
Me, I’m not doing so well but that is the way life goes.
Maybe I will be better tomorrow.
xoxoxoxoxoxo M
M, sorry to hear you are not doing well but brighter days are ahead…have faith. As for me, the “date” kept in touch all the way to the day before and then she messaged me asking if I wanted to exchange cell numbers. I did a search to see what scams there were and sure enough, one is to get the cell number and then the victim is blasted by online dating site propaganda while the supposed date dissapears. I politely said we should get through the first date and then talk but I received no response. At that point I decided I was too good looking for the sites (LOL) and I would find someone the old fashion way.
Aside from that, I am still getting ready for the backyard family get together at my house this weekend. I am taking tomorrow off from work to finish up. I actually have a non-romantic-girl-friend that I had over this week, cooked dinner for her and watched a DVD together. As much as I miss the intimacy with my ex, I enjoy not having the drama. Lastly, because of the advice I listened to from this site I found a singles group on matchup.com and am meeting them tonight for dinner.
My advice for the coming weekend: Take life in babysteps, don’t sweat the things out of your control, and take at least 10 minutes to just stare up at the clouds.
Hi guys.
M .. what triggered it? Or did your thoughts kinda wonder off in that direction? That’s how it is with me sometimes.
Well I’m glad you caught that when you did. Shish. If its not one thing its another. Ya I was wondering how the preparations are going. Well I hope you have a nice party. And tell us about the singles group that you met. Hope it was enjoyable if nothing else. See and you started to count your blessings .. enjoying things and seeing things for the positive they bring. The dinner for example. How wonderful! But you always sounded grounded and sensible and good. Keep us updated about the party and the group and everything else pls.
Ok guys .. having a yummy salad then meeting friends foe coffee.
Hang in there M. Wonder what Allie is up to.
Kisses
The singles group meeting was nice. About a week ago a new person joined and we had been chatting off and on. She is really nice and we finally met Thursday night. After the meeting was over we walked through downtown together and took a nice romantic walk along the waterway. Taking it really slow. I called her yesterday and we are going out again for dinner tomorrow night.
I worked on the backyard yesterday and decided to take a half hour break in the pool. Of course I fell asleep and four hours later I am a little more tanned than I wanted to be. After finishing preparations last night I went to a jazz club with a buddy of mine. All in all a great couple of days so far.
Today it has been raining on and off but I am still planning on the pool party.
Keith. You are having waaaay to much fun and I’m jealous. LOL.
Look at you Keith!!!!!! WOHOOO!!! I am happy for you, you sound very upbeat and lots happier. Seems you are way ahead on the road to recovery.
Me, I am trying to keep my promise to do something every weekend so I am going Downtown to view some galleries and listen to music. I am going all by myself so I am hoping that at the end I dont regret going. Wish me luck!!! It has been a very hurtful week and Ive been taking two step backwards instead of forward. I just cant stop loving that man and its kiling me. Oh well, day by day I guess!!! I hope you have a wonderful weekend.
Jade I hope you have lots of fun as well. I guess not hearing from Allie is a good thing. I hope she is having a blast with her newly found freedom.
Wishing you guys all the bestxoxoxoxoxoxo M.
Jade & M
Thanks for the encouraging words. The pool party was a success, I must have had between 25 and 30 people in the backyard just hanging out, swimming, etc. Made some killer mudslides and the usual grilling. Around 9 last night everyone was gone except my buddy and his girlfriend so we had a late night swim and firepit.
I hope the downtown walk was nice. Never feel like you are alone though, you have the best company in the world…yourself. You just have to redefine who that is now. As for me, the guy I was before I became married is starting to show himself. He has grown up in the last 14 years and is ready to experience life. I am glad to have you guys along on the journey at least in spirit. Single life is a new chapter to be savored. And I have only begun to scratch the surface.
Hugs and kisses to all – try and do something just for “you” today.
Shish M. I don’t know about you but Keith is making me get up and go and have a good time. Lol. Well glad your party was a success ..
M. Remember that this process will have its ups and downs. So not to worry or think all is bad when you are in the bad zone. All part of the process. Some things have transpired around me that are putting things in perspective which helps. These people that don’t love us back are such waste of time and energy sometimes I feel bad for feeling the way I feel. Yes we all know I shouldn’t feel bad and its only natural to feel bad from rejection. But, I have to weigh in that this is surely not the worst that could happen. Considering all the pain in this world … so I try to keep that perspective in back of my mind as much as I can and it has helped. I don’t want to waste what I have left of my life towards something I cannot change. All the missed opportunities will kill me to think about later.
Hang in there M.
Talk to you again soon guys.
One more thank you to suggesting finding a group on meetup – because of that advice I met a nice woman and went on the first date last night. Even though I am pushing 42 this Thursday, I felt like I was a teenager again “waiting to be punched on the arm to see if the girl likes me” and keeping the details to myself as a gentleman would all I can say is my arm is pretty sore.
Dearest Keith,
I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!! Hope you have a Wonderful Happy Birthday on Thursday!
M
LMAO Keith. I love it. What fun!! I’m telling you. You are an inspiration..
You can at least tell us if there is going to be another date with her soon???
M. How are you feeling???
You guys are the inspiration…I am just taking life as it comes and enjoying it. I had a “work thing” Monday but called her when I was home so we made another late date for last night. She has been through a divorce too so we are both beginning out with eyes wide open. I mean I am not afraid of getting involved again, I just want to make sure I am comfortable with “me” first.
Good for you. Well remember that we r girls and we want details. Doesn’t have to be the unmentionables LOL. Just the romantic stuff.
M… u ok over there???????
Hitting 42 today…but I still feel like I am in my 30′s.
Details? – The couple of times we went “out” we ended up down by the river walking holding hands. And we do a lot of talking which is nice as we are very open about what pace we want to set. All I know is I am learning to live in the moment and take care of my own self for once instead of putting someone else first. I am not one of those see multiple people guys (even though it may be best if I did). But at the same time I cannot help but guard my own heart.
Hugs and kisses to everyone.
M…you have me worried too…
Hi Jade, Keith, Allie,
I am not doing well but I dont want to rain in Keith’s parade.
I am so happy for you Keith!!!!
M
M, please share…
“When someone says my heart needs lifting…don’t ask how come…ask how high”
I like that Keith. Please share M. Let it allll out. Scream on this thing … use caps
u will feel better. We are here to share the good and bad.:)
Keith…
Haaaaaaapppyyyy Biiiiirthdaaaayyyy toooooo youuuuu… la lalala … LOL… that’s your b day song from us. Your peeps on this site!!!
Xx
Happy birthday Keith!!! Hope u have a wonderful bday!!!
I know I have been Mia but I check u guys posting all the time, just trying avoid talking bout it in hope that it will speed up my recovery. ( didn’t really help)
m, it’s good to let it all out. That’s what we r here for. To listen n talk bout happy n sad things that happens around. I can just imagine what u r going through… I no longer see or talk to my ex n I still miss n think about him everyday. He texted me on Sunday saying that he wanted to talk even if it’s via text. ( n for once he said it wasn’t about work.) took all the strength I had in me to not reply. Miss him sooo sooo soo much, but i know opening old wounds is not a good idea, especially when I’m not totally heal again.
Keith, I’m happy that u found someone that u can see urself spending quality time. It’s a great leap to be open to that option. And best of luck with everything. Hearing your happy stories make optimistic about the future for myself. And hopefully one day we can all share happy stories. =)
miss all u guys!!! Xoxo n much love to u all!
My peeps – I like that. Thanks for the birthday wishes. It was a great day, after the office I went out to dinner with my Stepfather for sushi. Then I met up with my “new special lady friend” for a romantic walk in the park and hit the swingset. Sometimes it is better to do the simple things that you will remember forever.
Tonight I am going to a church bonfire alone, and it is not my regular one so I won’t know hardly anyone but my goal is to just make as many new friends as I can. Remember to do something fun this weekend, even if it is just for yourself.
Love to everyone, peace and happiness rain down on all of us.
Hi Guys,
How was your Birthday Keith??? Hope you had a wonderful happy one! Did you do anything special?
Hi Allie. Missed you girl! Good morninhg Jade!!!!
I am at a point that I am exhausted of feeling hope one day and extreme hopelessness the next. At this point I feel like I will never be happy again and I am trying to make peace with that.
I am so tired to think today things might turn around and get better, to only feel the opposite the next. I just think that even talking about it anymore is just useless.
Millie
I Sooo know what u r saying M. It’s like wth … u r like ‘cmon already. It is all part of it. Part of being heart broken and then part of the process to your recovery. There are steps before you get to the final reward. Which is healing of course. So grit your teeth and be strong. Don’t give up hope. Keep reading and doing different things so you can be inspired to keep your head up.
Allie I am so proud of you. STILL keeping away. I won’t even comment on your guy because his treatment of you previous times makes me wanna choke him LOL. So I’m just glad you are sooooo strong.
Keith .. the swing date sounds sooooo lovely. Man oh man .. will we be lucky to find our soulmates??? Man it makes me all mooshy inside to think of the simple but special kind of dates that you talk about.
…
Sighhhhh
Xx and big hugs. m u take good care of yourself.
M, I know it’s not easy and Jane is right, never don’t give up hope. I was so tempted to call him two nights ago as I was crying myself to sleep. (damn hormones!!!) I wanted so much to hold him and kiss him again and I know if I call him back I can get that, but it’s just a temporary relief and it won’t fulfill my emotional needs. Even though the good times we spent were amazing, but when I think of all the emotional turmoils that he made me go through, the lies, the cheating, and I asked myself “do I really want to go through that again?”. That night I felt extremely alone and all these uncertainties crossed my mind. “Will I ever love again?”, “Will I ever find happiness?”, “Am I destine to be alone?”…etc. That feeling sux. I tossed and turned the whole night wondering…and didn’t sleep until 4am.
I have been losing motivation to do anything…instead of losing weight (like Keith), I end up gaining weight. I eat and eat my emotions. Eating and sleeping is the only two things and time where I don’t think of him, how pathetic is that?
Don’t worry today is a brighter day. I know there are days I will be really down but I will keep my head high and not forget what I’m fighter for. M, I hope you will continue fight with me and not give up. =)
Wish you all have a great weekend!!!
Love and Hugs!
-Allie
Neveeeeer give up .. Alie .. I have so many “draft texts” of almost sent stuff … man I am so glad I didn’t send them .. I am stronger because of it.
Kisses
Having those Monday morning blues…
It was a nice weekend. We spent Saturday together downtown at the Art Beat Festival just walking around and talking. Sunday she came over for lunch and swimming. We had a really in depth talk and I decided it would be better to just remain friends as our relationship seemed to be going a little too fast for where I am at in my healing. Plus as she is going back for her Master’s degree I did not want to become an emotional mental distraction. As friends I think we will be more theraputic for each other, even though it was only one week we connected on a level where it feels like I have known her for months.
Very nice. And who knows. Maybe later …
I think I might have the guy out of my system. Except once in a while I feel that tinge of what could have been.
Things around me are helping the process. Something devastating has happened to an immediate family member and it puts my “I want to be with him” dilemma to shame. I would give anything to undo what has happened to my family. If we are healthy and able … let’s remember we are very lucky and to really enjoy our lives with whatever we have.
Hugs and kisses
xx
Jade, sorry to hear about the dilemma. As it is a family member, I am sure you don’t feel comfortable sharing the details. My prayers will be with you. God only gives us as much as we can handle but sometimes that seems like too much.
Please keep us updated.
Yes. Prayers please. Thank you very much. It does seam like too much. I feel like dead flesh just being kicked around. But I guess we are human and we are weak.
Thank you Keith.
Back in 2005, I was frustrated trying to sell my house and just left on vacation. When I reached the Florida state line I had news that my brother was injured in a freak accident and passed away when I made it back to Indiana. Within a month of that toughest period, I was able to sell my house and move into the one I am in now. When God closes one doore, another opens. It is up to us to make sure we have the patience to know when to walk through it.
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