I fell to the floor clutching my chest – I couldn’t breathe. I had lost my soulmate and the memory was fresh. Unfortunately, that floor was in bathroom of the 100-person office where I was the owner & CEO.
It was then I knew my broken heart had taken over my life…I mean what was I doing lying on the floor crying? My staff was counting on me and I felt like I was having an out of body experience. I was gasping for breath thinking it was a possible heart attack, but deep inside I knew the truth…
The love of my life, the center of my everyday exciting and mundane activities, the one who brought a thrill and calm like no other I had ever experienced had walked away. I was crushed. No, no, not crushed. That doesn’t begin to describe it. I was left a shell of my previous self…hollow inside. Empty.
This broken heart had taken over my emotions, stripped me of the meaning in my life. I wondered if anything I had worked towards actually mattered anymore. The house, the car, my friends, my hobbies, and honestly even my family seemed completely meaningless…without him. I didn’t see how I was going to get through it. So, as I lie there crumpled on the ground I did the only thing I knew how - I got up.
I got up and I decided it had been long enough. To be honest, the day of the bathroom incident, it had been 2 years since the break up, but the memory was still very fresh. I decided that I was going to search out the solution to healing a broken heart, because I didn’t buy that ‘time heals all wounds’. It certainly didn’t for me. In fact, it festered and grew like this blob of uncontrollable despair that had overtaken my life. I had hit rock bottom and I decided it was time to climb back up and be the person I knew I still was inside.
Here is the reality I discovered later : No matter if you’ve broken up from a long marriage or if this was your first love, no matter how impossible it may seem – you can heal. No matter if you are 20 or 60, life can still go on and be not only meaningful, but better and brighter than before. And not because you ‘waited’ for time to heal, but because there is a way to heal your broken heart.
If you have a broken heart, we are bonded by a shared experience. I consider you a friend. Please listen to my story as a friend…
What I described above is a true story. I was co-owner of a very busy, very demanding technology business, and I was a disaster. I had lost the love of my life and time wasn’t healing my wounds. I decided to fight back. I researched to find a solution to my heartbreak. As I said, I saw therapists, I read self-help books, I watched videos, listened to audios, meditated, did yoga, and much more. I was mad to find the solution. You know how I felt after all that? A little better, but not much.
Then I stumbled upon Positive Psychology and everything changed. Positive Psychology – I know it sounds like mumbo-jumbo, but it’s a real science that studies the strengths that allow humans and cultures to flourish. Finally! A science that examines not what is wrong with us, but rather, what is right with us. My study of Positive Psychology is what pushed me to quickly find my better, brighter future. In fact, I left technology, started writing, became a best-selling author, and I’m now very happily married to someone I truly adore. I never thought this was possible, but it is and I can show you how to heal too.
I figured out why this happened in my life.
I understood if I should be friends with my ex or not.
I found real fixes to the pain of the loneliness.
I discovered the way to stop refreshing my email and checking my phone every 5 minutes for a text from my ex.
I created my path to a new future that is better than the one I had originally imagined.
I know this sounds inconceivable. I found the path from lost love back to the fire of life once again.
Please listen to me. The reason I’m putting such a personal, private story out there is to let you know you are not alone. Telling you I was lying on a bathroom floor is not exactly me sharing a high point in my life with you; but I feel it is necessary. I have found a way to heal, and now it is my duty to share it with anyone else who has a broken heart. I’m sharing my techniques with you right here.
Here is the truth: Love isn’t what hurts. It’s losing love that’s excruciating.
Inside, you are torn apart:
· You feel as if you will never meet anyone else
· You are scared to death that you will grow old alone
· You are too frightened to ever open up your heart to love anyone else
· You don’t see a point in going on with your life
Your friends can say whatever they want to try to comfort you. And there love and attention is appreciated, but it’s like taking a low milligram aspirin for a migraine. It may ease the pain briefly, but the underlying problem is still there, gnawing at you. Listening to your friends might actually be making things worse. Your friends will help to perpetuate the three biggest myths about dealing with heartbreak. And they’ll keep repeating them, with good intentions, but crippling results.
Myth #1: “Time heals all wounds.”
Myth #2: “It has to get much worse before it gets better.”
Myth #3: “The best remedy is to date someone else.”
Ugh! These Myths Are False! Who is Spreading This Limited Thinking Around? It’s Not Helping You. It’s Hurting You.
Fact 1: Time will heal you when you take real action. You must make a conscious effort to take the steps to get rid of the negative thoughts, alleviate anxiety, combat depression, and find happiness again. We show you how.
Fact 2: It can get better from Day 1 after your break up. That is a pretty bold statement, but it is true. There is no magic bullet, but there are powerful ways to change your perspective and readjust your internal pain centers. They are in Step to Heal
Fact 3: There is a right time to starting dating again. Getting back into the dating game too soon can slow down your healing to a halt and even push you a few steps back. Get the right advice from the experts on when and how to find love again.
You Can Fool Your Family and Friends, but You Can’t Fool Yourself.
Check off the things you’ve found yourself thinking lately:
“I don’t listen to music because every song reminds me of them.”
“I have a knot in the pit of my stomach all day long – it’s like actual physical pain.”
“I either cannot eat at all or When I DO eat I eat everything I can to try to make me feel better.”
“I know our relationship had problems, but I still have a feeling of overwhelming loss.”
“I check my messages every 5 minutes to see if me ex wrote or called.”
“I keep trying to figure out why they REALLY left me or what REALLY went wrong.”
“The thought of dating again is absolutely inconceivable to me.”
“I lie in bed thinking about what I should’ve said to them and what I will say if I get to talk to them again.”
“I lie in bed thinking I cannot believe this is happening to me at this stage in my life. How is this possible?”
Step back from your situation for a moment. Pretend you are someone else who is observing you.
Now does it appear that you’re taking steps to cope with your heartache? If you’re wallowing in it, you’re allowing it to consume you. Grief, heartache, depression and a myriad of other emotions that are natural after a break up can actually be dangerous if you don’t handle them with care. Your mind has an amazing power over your physical being. If you ignore your emotions or seek guidance from the wrong sources, it could really hurt you. Depression and stress have been linked with very serious diseases.
The emotional storm a person encounters after an intense divorce or break up is very serious and very painful. Just like a tornado or hurricane, this emotional storm can rip through your life and leave everything in shambles. You may already feel like you’ve lost everything. But there are answers. There is guidance that you can get. There is a way you can avoid carrying emotionally damaging baggage on your shoulders for the rest of your life.
Stop Reading Shock Magazines with Articles Like “How to Get Him to Come Back” and Follow the Advice of a Trained Professional
After spending thousands of hours working on scientifically tested heart healing methods, I have finally refined and added the most effective steps to create a comprehensive and definitive guide to heal the pain of your broken heart: Step to Heal. People say just say “Stop” to your negative thoughts. That doesn’t work, because that advice is missing a key ingredient. You may read that you should consume yourself in other activities like hanging out with friends, going to dinner, catching a movie etc., but those things seem meaningless unless you know the trick to keep yourself engaged. I discuss all of this in Step to Heal.
Step to Heal is the only method that uses a Scientific Approach and takes a simple step after step, day after day method to provide you relief. Some of the steps you have seen on the site before; however, I have added the secret ingredients to each one to give you their full impact. You may have read other self-help books before that made you feel better while you were reading them, but then the pain resurfaces. Step to Heal is different because there is little theory and a lot of action. It is the action (based in scientific research) that helps you feel better. One day you’re in bed, wallowing from the pain of your divorce or break up, the next, you feel like yourself again.
Emotions After Divorce By Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT Emotional Symptoms of Divorce During the first six months of separation, women are more prone to symptoms of depression, poor health, loneliness, work inefficiency, insomnia, memory difficulties, and increased substance abuse. Studies show that men feel empty, guilty, anxious, depressed, deep loss, and strong dependency needs of which they were unaware.
This was some of the self-help material that I had read. They are telling you that you’re going to be depressed for months. Frankly, if someone tells you you are going to be depressed for six months, then you will be. You are not. I am telling you now that this path of sadness and grief is not a requirement. Do you need to face your emotions? Yes. Can you just leap over all the pain? No. But there is a better and faster way to heal.
Heal Your Heart Instead of Just Dealing with Your New Realities…Science has Proven that You Can Make Yourself Happier
Step to Heal is based, in part, on my own personal experience. I’ve been through a divorce and major break up and tried other ‘bubblegum’ self-help techniques such as getting a makeover. I believe these light-hearted suggestions insult the gravity of the situation.
I am a Certified Coach of Positive Psychology. Many of the techniques used in Step to Heal are based in Positive Psychology- otherwise known as the Science of Happiness. The techniques are researched and proven to increase the overall well-being of one’s life. In 2005, Time Magazine had a cover story called The Science of Happiness showing how happiness can be practiced like a physical exercise.
You can actually get better at it and increase your natural set level of happiness. I infuse these techniques in my Step to Heal program and it’s terribly exciting!
Most friends and family would tell you not to ask WHY this happened in your life and to just have faith it will get better. I couldn’t disagree more. If you were married or lost your soulmate, understanding why the relationship didn’t continue on and why you are in the place you are at this stage in your life is OK. In fact, more than OK, it is vital to helping you stop the pain and fear of what lies ahead.This is something I have given a lot of thought and have put a lot of research hours into determining.
How can it be a good thing that a love in our life is gone? How can it be OK that we are 20, 30, 40…insert your age…and this type of break up is happening in our lives? WHY this is happening is one of the aspects of Step to Heal that will move you through this pain. This sounds heavy, but it something that you would get to in any type of counseling or therapy…it would just take a lot longer to address.
I am here to hold your hand and direct you through this heartbreak. You will feel better by having a step by step program to work through your pain. It is terrible when you feel overwhelmed by a break up, but even worse is wondering what to do with your time day after day. I’m telling you what to do now – get on the Step to Heal program. Use your time productively to heal.
Every Failed Relationship Has Its Own Unique Storyline, But in the End, We All Pretty Much Hurt the Same… Therefore Intense Study Has Taught Us How to Heal from Tragic Plot Twists
In my research, from studies by the Community of Positive Psychologists, and from feedback of the thousands, I have discovered that there are common hurdles that appear in everyone’s path in the road to recovery. Your personal break up story may be unique in how the drama unfolded. And maybe one day you will be able to joke about the horror story you personally experienced. But right now is the most critical time of your life. How you handle dealing with your heart break can reverberate for the rest of your life.
Heartbreak can hold you back by:
· Making you bitter
· Self-conscious and
· Diminishing your self-confidence
There is a lot of substantive information out there to help people. I feel that people who have discovered a method to improve their personal lives want to share their techniques with others. I find there are a lot of caring people in this industry where money is not the motivation for the development of their product. And I have managed to capture these powerful resources into Step to Heal, my comprehensive coping system. Here’s some recent feedback:
“Thank you so very much!”
“Step to Heal has a step on anxiety that actually works. Not only has it helped with my anxiety, it has helped with the mental stress I feel when remembering the break up. I have had a tight knot in my chest as if 100s of pounds have been weighing on me and this is the first thing that’s made a difference. Thank you so very much!” -Stephanie, Chicago
“Everything does happen for a reason.”
I am not someone that usually writes letters of thank you, but I feel compelled to write this one. I happened upon your site by chance when I was searching for an image of a broken heart. There is a mountain of info to help with healing and then I purchased Step to Heal and I was blown away. This has been the best healing advice I’ve found on the web or anywhere. I believe everything does happen for a reason and that is why I stumbled upon your site. – Jeremy, Rhode Island
· Change your perspective
· Activate techniques to overcome the pain when/if it resurfaces
· Feel the support of community so they understand they are not alone
· Get advice from a real person
· I know it’s hard…I’ve heard these lines before:
“Sometimes I wish I were a little kid again, skinned knees are easier to fix than broken hearts.”
“Giving up doesn’t always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go.”
“Love is like a puzzle. When you’re in love, all the pieces fit but when your heart gets broken, it takes a while to get everything back together.”
Can I help you eliminate this void and heal your broken heart?
I think that I can and the verification comes from people who have felt remarkable relief after going thru Step to Heal. Will your heart feel relief? Yes, and the easiest way to find out if it works is to try it today.
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Steps You Can Take Right Now to Start Healing Your Shattered Heart
Please eliminate common memory triggers – Change things up by taking a different route to work or school. Get rid of subconscious triggers by wearing different perfume, cooking different foods, wearing different clothes. I know it sounds crazy, but the inner mind forms strong associations.
Write down the recurring negative thoughts – Carry a pad with you and write them down, in the system, I’m going to teach you how to flip them on their head.
Decide if your ex was your soulmate or if it was a bad relationship that you are still sad to lose – This decision will affect your healing path.
Give yourself permission to feel betrayed, hurt, angry and cheated – Emotions are natural. Have them, face them, move directly through them.
Schedule activities – Try to start re-discovering you by doing things that you love that you haven’t done in a while. Start looking to yourself for happiness with the little things – cup of coffee, 10 minute massage, mind-numbing television etc.
Think before you act – With your emotions running so high (or so low) you could do something that you may regret later. Take your time before you make any decisions.
You Can’t Put Your Healing Off Any Longer. The First Step to Healing is Recognizing that You Want to Heal and then Taking Action
Well, let’s take a step back and peek at your choices first. You may be in therapy or have considered it. Offering coaching sessions myself, I’m aware they run anywhere from $100 – $150 per hour. And while therapy does work in many situations, you probably know that it is both expensive and takes many sessions to attain the desired results. You can also go out and buy every ebook on a broken heart that you may begin to read and most likely abandon. Why? Not because they are bad books, but because they may be too passive.
Step to Heal uses active healing techniques with a little theory and a lot of action and it is this action that helps you heal. Keeping all of this on top of mind, along with our memories of being in the same place as you, we’ve made Step to Heal as affordable as possible. It is only 1/3 the cost of one traditional therapy session, but can be 10x as powerful. Bold statement? Yes, but true.
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Love & Light,
P.S. You can change your results by changing your actions. I have been where you are and it is possible to feel relief. I want you to change your healing trajectory and feel better faster and in the healthiest manner with our scientifically developed exercises.
P.P.S. Feel free to send me an email and ask me questions at healmybrokenheart at gmail dot com even without making a purchase. I look forward to getting to know you.
