Comments on: Lost & Lonely

By: r u serious?

r u serious? — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 05:52:18 +0000

I am sorry but I can’t sympathize….a man that loves and is willing to marry you comes but few in a lifetime. I truly don’t understand how you can undermine this mans feelings just because he is not willing to let go of his emotions..few men do honey.
This guy lives in another part of the world and basically told u for himself that he can never be a serious part of your life. I understand the heart want what it wants and u think u love this man…keyword THINK. You have had 2 kids by this man u are about to marry, Don’t throw that away gambling it away on something that u never really had. It was what we call a “fling” Cold-Feet causes us all to thin about supposed missed opportunities. What could have been if only…. I am going to be all the way real with you honey…. it is a TRICK OF THE DEVIL HIMSELF….do not be fooled. If God had meant for you to be with Mr. C. things would have come together and it would have been nothing for him to move to your location, he would not have been able to help himself. It would have been 2nd nature to him, c burn within his heart&loins he could not name nor control. However, things did not work out that way. NOTHING HAPPENS WITHOUT REASON. Please believe….you are doing the right thing. The feelings you feel for this questionable guy will never be nothing more than a fallback crutch for what is real and right in your face. It will never be anything more than a obstacle to make you question your decision to marry the man that truly cares. True love is never the way you always imagined it. It comes in a troubled, unclear, not what u expected package that u normally want to throw out because it does not fit the scripted expectations of the “fairy tale” you always imagined. God is mysterious indeed and he knows exactly what WE NEED. It may not be what we think we want at the time but it is always right. You love Mr. J and it is only the lust and illusion of a connection that you feel with Mr. C that keeps you hanging on. Don’t fall for it honey. You are doing the right thing. No man is perfect. Men are dumb as all hell…Lol….Mr. J has shown the initiative of being a good father who is willing to step up and be a man and take responsibility and be a good father and husband who is willing to do what it takes to win your heart and be a part of his families life. The passion will come once you are willing to let Mr. C go and accept the fact that is was only a phase. Passion is what u make it….let go and see….Mr. J wants to love the shit out of you. Allow him.

By: LOST & LONELY

LOST & LONELY — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 15:54:56 +0000

Hello Again,

Lost and Lonely here, I just thought I would up date everyone again and thank them. I took the risk I married Mr J and I couldn’t imagine having done anything else now that it is done. The vows that were shared we wrote ourselves and Mr J totally blew me away with the words he said. My soul can rest as I know I am where I am supposed to be. I will never doubt my desicion. I know we still have a long road ahead, but we will face anything the world throws at us together, with 2 hearts fighting for the same cause.

Nothing and no one will ever come between us. I have never been sure of anything in my life except this and it took a lot of emotions to realize that when you have someone that loves you like I am loved you treasure every moment of that, because it can all disapear in the blink of an eye.

Although Mr J may have traits that I don’t love about him there is much that I do love that all those little things just disapear, All I can see are his loving blue eyes and his heart of gold and for that I am forever thankful, everyday that I get to look into those eyes knowing how much he loves me is a gift that I will never take for granted and can’t believe that I almost did!!!!!

This is my story and this is my HAPPILY EVER AFTER!!!!!

TRUE LOVE AND HAPPY ENDINGS DO EXIST!!!

By: behindthesmile86

behindthesmile86 — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 06:53:22 +0000

I truly believe that everything happens for a reason, you just have to patiently wait until that purpose surfaces. But I don’t think you can go wrong if you follow your heart; and you are the only person who knows what your heart wants. I like to believe that everyone eventually, gets their “happily ever after” – but I don’t think that anyone can achieve that without taking risks. If you over think a situation you’ll find a million reasons why you shouldn’t go for whatever it is you want. It’s like standing in the dark, on the edge of a diving board, for the first time. If you stand there long enough you will talk yourself out of it: “I could hurt myself”, “I’m up too high”, “The water could be freezing”, “Is it deep enough to dive into?” – Though it might not be logical, your best bet is to just sprint towards that driving board and take the leap into the unknown. You might belly flop, you might not; you’ll never know until you try. Basically, sometimes you just have to jump, and hope to god that the pool is filled with water.

By: Jubilee

Jubilee — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:17:34 +0000

Why don’t you move to be with Mr. C
You were heart broken when he wouldn’t move to you
MOVE TO HIM BE WITH THE ONE YOU LOVE
proceed with caution for you are throwing away a great thing (J) when leaving another you love behind
Life is complicated

By: MARGARET

MARGARET — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 22:02:29 +0000

i miss being in real love… sometimes you just have to follow your heart.
but with that being said you could go and try and start a life with Mr. C and it could be the biggest mistake of your life and in the end J could be the one hurt and when you relaize Mr. C was a mistake it could be to late to fix things with J….
The hard thing about that is there is only 1 way to find out… Will it be worth it? and if so think of the pain you felt and ask yourself could you hurt J that way?

By: Red

Red — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 22:19:52 +0000

LISA! Don’t go to the beach w your ex! You will be damaging your family greatly. It may seem harmless and exciting now but the damage you will be doing will last a lifetime. You will be creating a lack of trust not only with your husband but your child(ren) as well.

The person you should be confiding in is your husband. You need to tell him how you are feeling. He may have no idea. I recommend reading (with your husband) the book called The DNA of Relationships by Gary Smalley (I think that’s who wrote it). It’s truely an amazing book that can pinpoint a lot of reasons why you feel so alone in your marriage and how to work on them.

Perhaps your husband is feeling as alone as you areright now. Consider the situation reversed. He met up w an ex from years past. He feels alone. He meets her at the beach for a little wekend get away. How would you feel about that?…

By: Red

Red — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 22:11:22 +0000

Lost & Lonely, I think you made the most mature decision. Even though certain things are not the way you would want them w J, he seems to have a good heart. No relationship is perfect and they ALL require work. It’s unfortunate that Hollywood portrays it so differently.

Good luck w the wedding! I am so happy for your family!

By: bee

bee — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 19:12:04 +0000

wow…n all best of luck

By: Lost & Lonely

Lost & Lonely — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 14:28:42 +0000

Thank You To Everyone!!!!

I thought I would up date things, I took a couple of days and imagined my life in both situations over the nexy 5 years. I realized that working on things with Mr. J was what I truly wanted to do, although Mr.C had been a very important part of my life and although our story together was brief it really played a huge part in making me who I am today. Even the rekindling of our friendship influenced my life dramatically. Mr. C will remain my distant friend, who once in a while I may confide in because he always reminds me of my worth and who I am. . .

I am a 28 year old women, who has a voice and doesn’t have to play the role of a happy house wife, I want to be HAPPY!!Honestly!!
I have had to grow up too quickly having a baby at 15yrs old, I rushed into most of the decisions in my life without looking at the long term.
I got married at 18, divorced by 19 . . . But soon I will marry the man That I Love…
He may not be perfect, but niether am I and we have the rest of our lives together to work on that.
We share 2 wonderful angels and he accepted my eldest child from the very first day we dated.I am very lucky!
Maybe it won’t all be sunny days, but after the rain comes the rainbow and I will always look for that rainbow with Mr. J!!!
Thank you to everyone!!
The wedding date is August15th, 2009!!!!

By: fightingtemptations

fightingtemptations — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 22:39:13 +0000

same was my story ,sometimes it’s very hard to make a decision esp. when we have 2 options and we want both .We cant go on east and west at the same time .SO it’s just better to take one before u miss it and will regret for the rest of ur life . I dont think u want to loose both trains as i did ..best of luck to u