Comments on: I should have seen the signs, but I ignored them… http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ignoringthesigns Wed, 01 Feb 2012 02:12:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: kay http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ignoringthesigns/comment-page-2#comment-4172 kay Tue, 17 May 2011 00:26:07 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=949#comment-4172 I so understand many of these letters here and I feel for them, I am at a really tough time right now myself, for over 21 years my now ex husband and I have always stayed in touch, one way or another, he has been in and out of jail a lot and I have still always remained there and gone to see him and wrote and took calls, I moved on with my life and eventually remarried, but for wrong reasons, now I find that although I dont love my husband the way a wife should, we stay together for mostly financial reasons, but the love has long since gone, we care about each other now, however, I have stayed in touch as I said, all the past years with my ex, (the bad boy image) he truly is someone that most women should stay away from because he cannot stopo cheating on any woman that he has been involved with and believe me, I know 3 of them that he was living with and had what they thought serious relationships with, but he cheated on them all, I was the only one who actually married the guy and then I divorced him when he was in jail one time, he was also very physically abusive and yet I still stayed until one day I woke up and decided no more and that when I left and he went to jail and then i divorced him and we went out seperate ways, although I still stayed in touch, heres the issue, after all these years, he has not changed, he still drugs and drinks and cheats with loads of women, all of a sudden, he has turned on me and told a friend who he also had a relationship with at one time, and told her to tell me he hates me and never wants to hear from me ever again, I called and left message for him to tell me himself, and he simply left me a message on my phone saying just that and to respect his wishes, no explanation or anything and I am devastated, I have been a case all day and just want to cry and wonder what did i do wrong to him that after all these years, he is doing this to me? I drove by his apt last night with the plans to just stop by, but i chickened out cos i didnt want to run into another woman with him and i wasnt sure i could deal with the blows if he told me face to face that he hates me cos thats what he is saying. I still care about him and all i want to do is to have him remain as we were and be friends, i feel like i am in a fog and my life is turned inside out, what can i do and what should i do, i just want him to remain in my life, as odd as it sounds, when we are friends, I am so happy and my life at home is even happier, when this call came today I felt like i was kicked in the gut and started crying, then the phone rang an hour later, it was him but he didnt realize he had hit redial i think, i kept answereing but he never responded, so i know it was an accident, but when it happened, my sinking feeling in my stomach stopped and I was actually happy. I so understand many of these letters here and I feel for them, I am at a really tough time right now myself, for over 21 years my now ex husband and I have always stayed in touch, one way or another, he has been in and out of jail a lot and I have still always remained there and gone to see him and wrote and took calls, I moved on with my life and eventually remarried, but for wrong reasons, now I find that although I dont love my husband the way a wife should, we stay together for mostly financial reasons, but the love has long since gone, we care about each other now, however, I have stayed in touch as I said, all the past years with my ex, (the bad boy image) he truly is someone that most women should stay away from because he cannot stopo cheating on any woman that he has been involved with and believe me, I know 3 of them that he was living with and had what they thought serious relationships with, but he cheated on them all, I was the only one who actually married the guy and then I divorced him when he was in jail one time, he was also very physically abusive and yet I still stayed until one day I woke up and decided no more and that when I left and he went to jail and then i divorced him and we went out seperate ways, although I still stayed in touch, heres the issue, after all these years, he has not changed, he still drugs and drinks and cheats with loads of women, all of a sudden, he has turned on me and told a friend who he also had a relationship with at one time, and told her to tell me he hates me and never wants to hear from me ever again, I called and left message for him to tell me himself, and he simply left me a message on my phone saying just that and to respect his wishes, no explanation or anything and I am devastated, I have been a case all day and just want to cry and wonder what did i do wrong to him that after all these years, he is doing this to me? I drove by his apt last night with the plans to just stop by, but i chickened out cos i didnt want to run into another woman with him and i wasnt sure i could deal with the blows if he told me face to face that he hates me cos thats what he is saying.
I still care about him and all i want to do is to have him remain as we were and be friends, i feel like i am in a fog and my life is turned inside out, what can i do and what should i do, i just want him to remain in my life, as odd as it sounds, when we are friends, I am so happy and my life at home is even happier, when this call came today I felt like i was kicked in the gut and started crying, then the phone rang an hour later, it was him but he didnt realize he had hit redial i think, i kept answereing but he never responded, so i know it was an accident, but when it happened, my sinking feeling in my stomach stopped and I was actually happy.

]]> By: mark http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ignoringthesigns/comment-page-2#comment-3422 mark Mon, 15 Nov 2010 16:41:45 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=949#comment-3422 I am into a heartbreak and this kills me , a heavy chest my mind always occupied this hurts real bad.I lack sleep ,i dont eat properly its just killing me.She left because we had simple argument and does not wish to get back..i did not want to fall in love after my previous relationship but i did with this girl and now i am left heartbroken.I know that i will love again but right now it hurts i cant concentrate on anything.I am listening to this song by white lion-broken heart ,its perfect for the moment. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=elitJqvYeJE I am into a heartbreak and this kills me , a heavy chest my mind always occupied this hurts real bad.I lack sleep ,i dont eat properly its just killing me.She left because we had simple argument and does not wish to get back..i did not want to fall in love after my previous relationship but i did with this girl and now i am left heartbroken.I know that i will love again but right now it hurts i cant concentrate on anything.I am listening to this song by white lion-broken heart ,its perfect for the moment.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=elitJqvYeJE

]]> By: David http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ignoringthesigns/comment-page-2#comment-3270 David Mon, 25 Oct 2010 15:43:03 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=949#comment-3270 Hi , guys , here is my heart break ><" As my life goes on .. Today , waking up is the hardest thing to do and doest know what my life is leading on me .. everytime i woke up , thinking and am i going to be like this forever? so i just have to force myself to go bath. Every morning is like a dreadful day. Breaking up with someone you care about is one of the toughest decisions any of us will ever have to go through. Dealing with the pain and heart break is never easy. We just have to live the days as they are set out and not live in the past. All of us have had a broken heart. Doest mean i dont talk to u , i dont miss you. I letting everything go because what i have done and i still unable to maintain it. Once its scatter , it would not be the same. Broken hearts are never healed. They haunt us for a lifetime even if we find someone else. Without her, silence everywhere .Every relationship has its rough times, its making it through them that makes you stronger… but you couldnt wait.. No matter how far we are,together or not, i will always love you.. i’m not taking my diploma in melaka anymore. I am going to riam for my advance diploma automotive. I just can’t live my life in here anymore. its really causing me bad memories here. Life feels so pointless without her. I feel depressed a lot of the time. . especially at night when I used to always end my day talking to her. I lay in my bed trying to sleep and I just feel like I’m completely empty inside and I want her back. . I just want to be able to talk to her and share that same connection we used to have. I don’t mean to sound like a wussy little bitch but I’ve never cried so much in my life. How did she move on so fast? How can she already be in a serious relationship with another guy like one week after being in a 6 years relationship with me? That’s what hurts the most. . and how can she say she’s lost all of her feelings for me already when I’m still sitting her dwelling on how much I love her and want her back? I wish I were a stronger person so I could just maintain no contact with her but I just can’t stop myself from writing her and telling her how I feel. I know I shouldn’t be doing that especially since she only replies with hurtful comments. Now they’re in a relationship. . and she says she’s so much happier than she was with me. She still keeps telling me she doesn’t love me anymore and that she wants me gone. I’ve tried having no contact with her but for me it’s the hardest thing in the world because her and I used to talk every single day and she became a part of me and I loved her with all of my heart. I used to look forward to talking to her everyday.. when I had a shitty day I knew everything would be ok by the end of it when I’d get to talk to her. She always made everything better and when I tried not contacting her at all I felt like I was literally falling apart. I’m still trying not to contact her because I know it’s best for her. . especially since she’s in a new relationship and her attention isn’t going to me anymore. I still find myself writing her out of impulse because I get extremely lonely and miss her so much. I still love her to death and I want to be with her but I don’t think she wants the same. Hi , guys , here is my heart break ><"
As my life goes on ..

Today , waking up is the hardest thing to do and doest know what my life is leading on me .. everytime i woke up , thinking and am i going to be like this forever?
so i just have to force myself to go bath. Every morning is like a dreadful day. Breaking up with someone you care about is one of the toughest decisions any of us will ever have to go through.
Dealing with the pain and heart break is never easy. We just have to live the days as they are set out and not live in the past. All of us have had a broken heart. Doest mean i dont talk to u ,
i dont miss you. I letting everything go because what i have done and i still unable to maintain it. Once its scatter , it would not be the same. Broken hearts are never healed.
They haunt us for a lifetime even if we find someone else. Without her, silence everywhere .Every relationship has its rough times, its making it through them that makes you stronger… but you couldnt wait..
No matter how far we are,together or not, i will always love you.. i’m not taking my diploma in melaka anymore. I am going to riam for my advance diploma automotive.
I just can’t live my life in here anymore. its really causing me bad memories here. Life feels so pointless without her. I feel depressed a lot of the time. .
especially at night when I used to always end my day talking to her. I lay in my bed trying to sleep and I just feel like I’m completely empty inside and I want her back. .
I just want to be able to talk to her and share that same connection we used to have. I don’t mean to sound like a wussy little bitch but I’ve never cried so much in my life.
How did she move on so fast? How can she already be in a serious relationship with another guy like one week after being in a 6 years relationship with me?
That’s what hurts the most. . and how can she say she’s lost all of her feelings for me already when I’m still sitting her dwelling on how much I love her and want her back?
I wish I were a stronger person so I could just maintain no contact with her but I just can’t stop myself from writing her and telling her how I feel.
I know I shouldn’t be doing that especially since she only replies with hurtful comments. Now they’re in a relationship. . and she says she’s so much happier than she was with me.
She still keeps telling me she doesn’t love me anymore and that she wants me gone. I’ve tried having no contact with her but for me it’s the hardest thing in the world because her and
I used to talk every single day and she became a part of me and I loved her with all of my heart. I used to look forward to talking to her everyday..
when I had a shitty day I knew everything would be ok by the end of it when I’d get to talk to her. She always made everything better and when I tried not contacting her at all I felt like I was literally falling apart.
I’m still trying not to contact her because I know it’s best for her. . especially since she’s in a new relationship and her attention isn’t going to me anymore.
I still find myself writing her out of impulse because I get extremely lonely and miss her so much. I still love her to death and I want to be with her but I don’t think she wants the same.

]]> By: T-twi http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ignoringthesigns/comment-page-2#comment-2671 T-twi Wed, 11 Aug 2010 06:47:33 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=949#comment-2671 Im really glad I found this site, it helps me understand that I'm not the only one that's dealing with this excruciating pain of heartbreak. I met my ex when we were 13 years old, we gained a bestfriend friendship that was so strong , he always was there for me and he never let me down & vice versa, well 3 years passed and we made the hardest decision which was taking our friendship to another level, so we dated, for the first eight months it was magic I never felt so happy before, my life was great until two weeks before it made a year and broke up with me for no reason. I was heartbroken, I'm losing my bestfriend and my boyfriend how do you get over it,.it's been nine months and I'm still i'n love with him& I can move on , what do I do ? Im really glad I found this site, it helps me understand that I’m not the only one that’s dealing with this excruciating pain of heartbreak. I met my ex when we were 13 years old, we gained a bestfriend friendship that was so strong , he always was there for me and he never let me down & vice versa, well 3 years passed and we made the hardest decision which was taking our friendship to another level, so we dated, for the first eight months it was magic I never felt so happy before, my life was great until two weeks before it made a year and broke up with me for no reason. I was heartbroken, I’m losing my bestfriend and my boyfriend how do you get over it,.it’s been nine months and I’m still i’n love with him& I can move on , what do I do ?

]]> By: Emily http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ignoringthesigns/comment-page-2#comment-2472 Emily Tue, 29 Jun 2010 21:12:53 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=949#comment-2472 Hey guys well i hope you all are doing better. Well i have news....im engaged! hahha ever imagine me getting engaged, i know i didnt. I finally found someone who i can be truly happy with. So thanks for being there for me on the hard nights. Give it time it gets easier, i promise Hey guys well i hope you all are doing better. Well i have news….im engaged! hahha ever imagine me getting engaged, i know i didnt. I finally found someone who i can be truly happy with. So thanks for being there for me on the hard nights. Give it time it gets easier, i promise

]]> By: maxy http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ignoringthesigns/comment-page-2#comment-2471 maxy Tue, 29 Jun 2010 20:14:49 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=949#comment-2471 shatterlady i believe such is life im also going through the same thing but i believe with GOD all things are POSSIBLE shatterlady i believe such is life im also going through the same thing but i believe with GOD all things are POSSIBLE

]]> By: maxy http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ignoringthesigns/comment-page-2#comment-2470 maxy Tue, 29 Jun 2010 20:10:21 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=949#comment-2470 wow i have been through the same thing my ex also broke up with me without any reasons i really loved him funny enough he also moved on with a differnt girl some weeks after the break up wow i have been through the same thing my ex also broke up with me without any reasons i really loved him funny enough he also moved on with a differnt girl some weeks after the break up

]]> By: Roxanne http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ignoringthesigns/comment-page-2#comment-2138 Roxanne Sun, 25 Apr 2010 17:03:59 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=949#comment-2138 I can really relate to the word abandoned... I was with him on and off for three+ and I loved him in such away that words can not explain and just like that he is now gone and has another in two-weeks time aleast thats when he told me through a txt...just like that. The pain is so strong their are nights where I feel I cant breath and my body aches from shame and days I have to prey my way out of bed. Knowing that if ever does think of me Im nothing but a mere slient laugh. I can really relate to the word abandoned… I was with him on and off for three+ and I loved him in such away that words can not explain and just like that he is now gone and has another in two-weeks time aleast thats when he told me through a txt…just like that. The pain is so strong their are nights where I feel I cant breath and my body aches from shame and days I have to prey my way out of bed. Knowing that if ever does think of me Im nothing but a mere slient laugh.

]]> By: shatteredlady http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ignoringthesigns/comment-page-2#comment-2037 shatteredlady Sat, 10 Apr 2010 13:25:02 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=949#comment-2037 hi there, I've been miserable with my ex bf also, we have been on for 3 years, all went so smooth, we never fight we were always happy, he said nobody would ever replace me in his heart, then one fine day we had an argument, and we decided to cool off, the next day I texted him and told him that I dont want to end our relationship, we could still save it, but he ignored it, he ignored all my texts my emails, I even went to his workplace and he acted as if he doesnt know me, it really hurt, what hurts me the most is that after 2 weeks i saw his facebook account and all our photos were erased, they replaced it with their pictures, with the girl who he just met in his work,, it hurt me a lot, then I called him to confront him then he just blurt it out right there and then " I'm sorry it's just that I dont love you aymore, I already have a girlfriend and I love her so much" I really couldnt understand what just had happened, it sucks really, after all I know we've been really inlove, but why did that thing has to happen??? after a month they broke up, I dont reallt know what happened, but he told me he love me more than he loved that girl but he didnt take any action of having me back... I want to move on I really do but I cant, even though I already have a bf right now I still cry in pain most of the time, the break up happened 1 and a half year ago but it still eats me up, I hate what I'm feeling. For the last time I asked him trough text a few weeks ago, If there's still a chance of us being together again, if I still have to wait or It's just the way we should end, he never replied back, I simply want an honest answer but he never gave it to me for me to be able to move forward. I hate myself for feeling this, after all the pain he has caused me I still love him up to now, and I'm still hoping that one day we'll be together again... I need your help friends... I really do... please pray for my heart and soul to heal, that would be a very big help.... thanks... hi there, I’ve been miserable with my ex bf also, we have been on for 3 years, all went so smooth, we never fight we were always happy, he said nobody would ever replace me in his heart, then one fine day we had an argument, and we decided to cool off, the next day I texted him and told him that I dont want to end our relationship, we could still save it, but he ignored it, he ignored all my texts my emails, I even went to his workplace and he acted as if he doesnt know me, it really hurt, what hurts me the most is that after 2 weeks i saw his facebook account and all our photos were erased, they replaced it with their pictures, with the girl who he just met in his work,, it hurt me a lot, then I called him to confront him then he just blurt it out right there and then ” I’m sorry it’s just that I dont love you aymore, I already have a girlfriend and I love her so much” I really couldnt understand what just had happened, it sucks really, after all I know we’ve been really inlove, but why did that thing has to happen??? after a month they broke up, I dont reallt know what happened, but he told me he love me more than he loved that girl but he didnt take any action of having me back… I want to move on I really do but I cant, even though I already have a bf right now I still cry in pain most of the time, the break up happened 1 and a half year ago but it still eats me up, I hate what I’m feeling. For the last time I asked him trough text a few weeks ago, If there’s still a chance of us being together again, if I still have to wait or It’s just the way we should end, he never replied back, I simply want an honest answer but he never gave it to me for me to be able to move forward. I hate myself for feeling this, after all the pain he has caused me I still love him up to now, and I’m still hoping that one day we’ll be together again… I need your help friends… I really do… please pray for my heart and soul to heal, that would be a very big help…. thanks…

]]> By: jesse http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/ignoringthesigns/comment-page-2#comment-1726 jesse Sun, 07 Feb 2010 16:56:18 +0000 http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/?p=949#comment-1726 Hey patrice, I agree with u dear.. I m also trying hard.. i do cry..nearly everyday..but for lesser time now..I hate thinking abt him as it only hurts me..I hav stopped hating his fiancee as she is not at fault as she doesnt know anything.. I console myself thinking that i will get someone..my dream man..someday.. I m just 22.. :-).. but d past really hurts.. hope i get over it soon.. I avoid talking about or good times now as we tend to ignore the bad things under the good things but in actual the bad things are the ones we must accept and realise that he was not good for us. Welll...pray to God frnz i get outta it asap.. @Miracle Hi dear, I would just say one thing, if he doesnt want you now..dear dont live in any false hope. Because when this false hope breaks it hurts even more. Dont give him to hurt you anymore.Love yourself. Love your identity and dignity. No one has the right to hurt us just because we gave everything for them. So be strong,face the truth,accept the reality and move on. Why give a person enough right to hurt us when he doesnt resect us or love us anymore?? Dont hurt yourself dear. Make sure he loves u then only think on moving ahead with him else you dont make any false hope.Just move on and show him that you also have a life,an identity. All d best! Hey patrice,
I agree with u dear.. I m also trying hard.. i do cry..nearly everyday..but for lesser time now..I hate thinking abt him as it only hurts me..I hav stopped hating his fiancee as she is not at fault as she doesnt know anything.. I console myself thinking that i will get someone..my dream man..someday.. I m just 22.. :-) .. but d past really hurts.. hope i get over it soon.. I avoid talking about or good times now as we tend to ignore the bad things under the good things but in actual the bad things are the ones we must accept and realise that he was not good for us. Welll…pray to God frnz i get outta it asap..

@Miracle

Hi dear,
I would just say one thing, if he doesnt want you now..dear dont live in any false hope. Because when this false hope breaks it hurts even more. Dont give him to hurt you anymore.Love yourself. Love your identity and dignity. No one has the right to hurt us just because we gave everything for them. So be strong,face the truth,accept the reality and move on. Why give a person enough right to hurt us when he doesnt resect us or love us anymore?? Dont hurt yourself dear. Make sure he loves u then only think on moving ahead with him else you dont make any false hope.Just move on and show him that you also have a life,an identity.

All d best!

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