Welcome to the Heartbreak Hotel. Your partner has just dealt a dagger to your soul, and you are worried you will never recover. He or she was your best friend, your lover; perhaps they occupied a part of your home, most certainly a piece of your heart. And now, the rug has been pulled out from under you. Without them, I am nothing, you fear. You are filled with sorrow—on the fringe of despair. You have broken up.
Dramatic? If you’ve ever suffered from a broken heart, you recognize the grief described is quite real. Trauma endured from a heartbreak can pervade every aspect of one’s life rendering some a prisoner to their own pain. Time irrefutably helps the healing process, yet thankfully, time is neither the only, nor most powerful healing agent.
“I knew I was falling completely, totally, hopelessly head-over-heels for this man. Maybe I couldn’t accept that right then. I know I was scared of being hurt again; jaded by one too many loves-gone-wrong. So, I kept my mouth shut.” Read full story
“About 6 years into the relationship, we decided to celebrate our commitment with a marriage-style commitment ceremony. We wrote our vows and I asked that he do only one thing for me – promise to tell me if he ever fell in love with someone else. I promised that if I ever had to let him go, I would do so with love. I just never thought it would actually happen.” Read full story
“We dated for 3 years and I still have the love songs he wrote me, the cards he sent me, the memories, the pictures. Things went sour Senior year when Brian decided our relationship didn’t matter anymore- that his friends were all important and I was second rate. I should have seen the signs but I ignored them – perfect example of freewill vs. fate.” Read full story
At Heal my Broken Heart, we offer a collection of hope: real stories shared from real people. These stories chronicle the full spectrum of the break-up process including those who have completely healed to those fresh in the midst of heartbreak. And though each journey is unique, you will find common and relatable elements offering comfort that you are not alone in your suffering, providing practical techniques to accelerate your recovery, and a clearer path to making your heart whole again.
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I should know better by now, I’m 36 years old and I just can’t seem to find the one person that will give me the same emotions and security I give. Does that make me selfish I don’t know it may but I have been hurt so many times that i should be numb to it all. I am so tired of crying, I am so tired of doubting I tried so hard to just not care about anyone any more. As soon as I am ok with just being alone I meet someone and then I think Wow he seems so different he has this quality and doesn’t seem to have that quality but it just never seems to matter something doesn’t work. He’s been hurt, he’s still married but has been seperated for years (so why are you still married), he has issue’s, it’s just not the right time, I just got divorced and don’t want anything serious…. so why did you even bother with me. I try to be as honest and straight forward as I possibly can when I first meet someone. I express the need for honesty and that I want a relationship, dating is fine but it’s not something I want to do forever. If there is no chance for a long term relationship then please tell me now…. do ya think that works… of course not. This may also seem a little out there but why is it that July and August seem to be the relationship disintegrator for me. It may just be coincidence but the last 4 boyfriends I have had decided to get all freaked out at the thought of a realtionship with me and take off or just drive me crazy enough to make me break it off with them. I admit I am an over emotional person and once again I let the men in my life know that straight up. I guess since I had brain surgery back in 06′ I have learned life is way to short. I hate hiding things and I hate lieing or being mysterious. I go into a relationship with this is me if you don’t like it or can’t handle it then leave now. Soooo why do they take a flippin’ year to decide that a relationship with me isn’t worth it. My longest relationship was 7 years, that was all me. I treated him like a king, I was patient with him even though I knew he was hurt by his X-wife. I put up with moving in with his mother, I put up with him taking off and not wanting to tell me why… when I finally had enough I moved and left. He came after me as a “friend” helped me when I had my surgery then stayed when I was able to take care of myself. I didn’t make him pay rent or any of the bills, I let him stay with me because I loved him and thought things had changed and he loved me… he then left me for a younger girl and just recently has married her. Took me a good yr and half to make peace with myself over him. Tried the dating scene met a guy at work, swept me off my feet, was in the process of divorce I thought ok… take this slow… yeah I fell for him, not in love but in like with him. Yeah he decided he was free and wanted to enjoy it… yeah ok have fun with that. Then I met the latest man, so kind and smart… a heart so wonderful and giving but damaged. He has a daughter which I have never met nor pushed to. He has a family I never met but after 9 mths started to push as to why w/ no answers. I asked if a realtionship is what he still wants and I get yes but with restrictions. I am so tried of restrictions… just love me damn it! Forget about the past, I had nothing to do with it…. It’s today and now…
do you believe in genies???well i dont, but i was once a genie! hahaha..its really funny but its fun to be
a genie for once in your life…granting your masters 3 wishes!…once you rub the lamp, you can’t put
genie back ..
i still have 1 wish left but its seems like master doesn’t want to make the third wish ‘coz usually when
the third wish is granted, genie puffs away…but how’bout starting a new sotry???how ’bout this, when the
third wish is granted, genie becomes tangible???sounds weird right?? owww f*ck im crazy..but i will be the
weirdest genie they’ll ever had.
right now genie is out there somewhere…she’s lost and i dont know if she can find her way back..or maybe
the master left genie hanging on the last wish..bad master!hahaha.genie has the power to do everything, so
why just kill master???nah, i dont think genie can do that ‘coz master means a lot to her…maybe genie
will just kill master with kindness…
last word for master???you’re becoming someone else,the magic is gone and all i can see is a new master
with just a known name…a new master asking for 3 wishes…just take your time, genie won’t go
anywhere..genie can’t grant wishes if you’re not there…ill let my master go and set everything free..
bye my master!
hi guys my name is Sally iam very very hurt and in a lot of pain i was in a relationship
of 2 years i was Inlove with this guy called Jay i thought he was heaven sent oooh! my
God i was so so hapy i felt so special so complete so filled with love i was inspired every day to wake with a smile,after 7months my man changed completely he cheated on me with many girls i think 20 i saw the naked pictures of the girls in his fone, the sexual messages he sent he posted himself on face book that he was single and that he was looking for a woman to mary, you see i went out of my way to make him happy you see i would cook for him even when we have a fight i would call him and beg him for us to talk about our problems and solve them he wouldnt be intrested, what he did was take girls out to camp and leave me behind the he will sleep with them take them out to suncity, buying them cell phones and all that stuff still i comprom,ised because i loved him and i wanted us to talk about what he is doing and that we fix it, the thing about him is that he never aplogised or admit that indeed he was cheating he would just dismis everything and say ” i dont want to talk about it this weekend i have a weeding to attend maybe will talk next week” i know its silly but i still love him ,its 9 months now that we not together. i miss him but hes dosnt miss me and that hurts becouse i truely loved him
In a nut shell:
I am 48 years old, 2 divorces, 2 children and 1 grandchild.
He is 52 years old, 1 divorce and 2 daughters.
We met on match 2 and a half years ago.
We had a very nice relationship until my children and grandchild (girl 29 and boy 27 and grandchild 7) came back from Brazil last year.
I saw him distancing from me and then last month he pushed me so hard that in a moment of rage I broke up with him over the phone.
On the next day, I went to his place, apologized and said that I didn’t want to break up.
Too late, he had his mind made up and in a very cold way put an end to our relationship.
He claimed that I didn’t have as much time for him anymore and that we are just too different.
I am crushed! I had planned to spend the rest of my life with this man.
Am I crazy?
Did I choose the wrong man again?
Is he ever going to come back to his senses?
If he does, should I try again?
eliana, good day to you, its clear to me that this guy doesnt know what he really wants, one day your good and the other day ur bad. everyone has their Priority and tht what he needs to know, your children are ours. To make matters short, atleast you tried to make it work with him, and sooner or later he will realizethat u indeed made an effort to make this work.
eliana these are my words to you ( think about what is it that you want , and what is it that you need, and if you were doing ok before he came into your life, you will be ok with time.)
all the best:
Livasti.