Type of Relationship: Broken after trauma
Status: Apart after 3 years and 2 beautiful boys
I met her and we immediately hit it off…
We met one night through a friend and it took only a few days for both of us to really feel comfortable with one another. After 1 week of knowing each other, we moved in together. All was great. In fact, for the first 2 years we inseparable. The only time we were apart was when we had to work. Even then, we sent anywhere from 100 to 150 text messages telling each other how perfect we were together and that this relationship would never end.
As happy as we were, the road that the future would lead us down was totally different than the one we had envisioned.
She suffered a huge loss when your younger brother suddenly passed away. I was with her through it all. Then after 3 months of his passing, she told me she had problems and told me she was leaving. I asked her to talk to me, but she shut me out completely and moved out. I was from a small town and I left everything from my past to move in with her. I felt so betrayed.
I love her with all my heart and I honestly felt she was “the one.” Now, I try to stay busy and even moved back to my hometown to be closer to family, but this pain is unbearable. I can’t sleep and I am always thinking of her and my boys. The killer thing is that now when she talks to me she tells me everything that was wrong. She even tells me her family never liked me, but she will always care and love me.
I still love her and I think about her so much that I know in my heart what I want. Unfortunately, some things don’t work out as your heart wants. I have never felt this way for anyone ever before, but I have to keep my head up and as much as all this hurts it has been one of life’s lessons. You have to keep going, Our relationship was unique there was so many special times, now all I can do is keep going for my boys and wish her the best. This will take time, but I have felt that writing your feelings down does work.
I know the road ahead is not going to be easy, but this to shall pass.
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sounds like the trauma of losing her brother really took a toll..i’m so sorry for your loss. sometimes an event like that brings us closer and sometimes it tears us apart.
I know it’s hard to believe, but sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall into place.
Sounds like you’re going thru exactly the same as I. I never knew what true love was until I dated my now ex. We were so much alike, everything seemed perfect couldn’t have asked for a more perfect relationship he loved me (as he told me) & damn I was deeply in love with him. All I was told was “I can’t wait to start our lives together just you & I” He seemed happy & couldnt wait to be with me.. but then his to be ex wife’s dad is dying & now feels guilty .. in a flash our relationship was over.. I’m left heartbroken.
I hope you’re able to get passed this as it isn’t easy, I know.