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Hi all.. I'm new to this, but I sure could use some support/advice. I'm so devastated I don't even recognize myself..

   For the past 5+ yrs my years w/ my ex were more than wonderful. We're both retired.. late 50's, tho she looks at least 10 years younger (gorgeous blond, blue-eyed nordic type, very wealthy), and we ran thru Europe, Puerta Vellarta, NYC (we live in Calif; each had a condo there).. was a great, great fun life..

  We lived together for the past year, pledged eternal love, committed to being together forever, etcetc. Even though I'm “ancient” I've never before experience the pain, depression, self pity/loathing overwhelming me now.  I'll spare everyone the boring details, but she starting late 2009 my ex went from wanting moving out to get some “space” to “we both need to be open to dating others” to “did you watch the super bowl?? [she hated football when she was with me] Yes. Well, I was there.. in the suite of the Saint's owner.. with my new, ex-NFL player boyfriend.. we had an incredible week..partied every night til 3pm..do you know this Drew Brees guy.. he was at our party after the game..Yes, my new bf is  black, and I told you I hated the idea of inter-reacial dating, but I think I've found my soul mate.. I'm as suprised as you are. I never could have guessed this… you/I had some great years and wonderful times, but we both need to move on now..”

  I've got all the symptoms so many of you have described so well (I'm so sorry you had to share this).. can't sleep, no appetite, can't focus, lost my confidence and will to live, hopelessness, sadness, emptiness, “there'll never be anyone that can match my ex..” etc, etc

    I may be older but CERTAINLY no wiser… I'm open to any suggestions from any and all.. I'm destroyed.. how do I get the will to build myself back up, learn from this misery, and become a better, healthier person somehow??

  Thnx for you're help.