My ex also did the same. When she had any prob she would tell it all to me and not her bf. Some people feel better talking problems to their frens rather bf/gf. Maybe she got used to telling u her problems and it's a bit hard to change. But dont have high hopes. It's just a way for her to release her problems to you. Dont think she's telling u all this in hope of getting back to you.
You can just tell her briefly not to worry and stuff but don't go deep into it.You will get urself hurt again. Trust me. Anyway u did a great job not replying to that text. It's a good start
You are so right. I recieved three text from her last night. At first I thought God answered my prayers. The first one said “Do I have any mail at the house?” I did reply to that one saying “No mail for you.” The second said something about the dogs and at the end she asked ” How are you doing?” I did not reply to that one. I wanted to but didnt. If I had it would have been something like”how the hell do you think I'm doing?, You broke my heart enough that I'm asking for answers online. I cant sleep at night, I still Love you!!!” But like I said, I didnt. I ignored it. The third said she ” was really stressed out about school and work and feels like she was going to break! I wished you could sometimes be my friend!” I didnt respond to that one either but kept thinking to myself that if she has this new boyfriend and stuff, why doesnt she talk to him about all that stuff. Why is she doing this to me? Is she sick in the head or am I sick in the head? But all and all, I never responded and it did make me feel pretty good until I woke up in the AM and it was still the same situation. I cried again thinking to myself, Is this the right thing to do? Should I talk to her? Is she hurting too and just cant admit to me that she has made a mistake?
I went through that process of waiting for her call and text
Kept looking at my phone every few mins. Don't do it. U will only be disappointed. It took me months to slowly stop doing that. You have to be strong. I know it's hard but hoping for something that wont happen is a waste. Dont hope for her to come back anymore. Dont hope fo her to call or text. Adn try not to call her or text her. U might be happy if she calls or text you but these are “false satisfaction”. It's just temporary and it will go off.
Thanks for replying. I have my good moments and bad moments all the time. It really is a bummer because I am already in a stressful job that I cant be thinking of her all he time. I have been so used to calling her evryday, talking about the day, I miss my best friend. I find myself going crazy when she didnt call or text. Even if I cant contact her, I have some fantasy that she will come to me and sob I'm sorry, I did this and that, and I hurt you. You are the one I love. I will never do that again!!! Unforturnatly, I know she will never do that. I look at my phone every couple of minutes praying she will call and do this. Am I sick in the head or what? I know what I should be saying, screw the bitch for treating me this way, She knows I was good to her in every way. Or on the other hand, maybe she thinks I wasnt.
I am really sorry for you loss, I also know how you feel.
I lost my boyfriend 2 months ago (after 4 years), and found out recently that he allready has a new girlfriend. In a way its better to know than not, maybe it will help me let go easier. But it also hurts so much, both physically and mentally.
I still think of him in a glorious way, the good moments keep playing in my head over and over and over… And then i think that I would give everything to go back. But ofc I cant.
I have moments where I feel that pain lets go just for some minutes…that feels so good. Then the pain comes sneaking back. I just hope the good moments will come more and more aften.
Facebook is a bad thing, I know. I check his profile all the time. I know the best thing would be to remove him as a friend there, but so far I havent been able to.
Welcome to the forum.I know how you are feling now. I was in your position 5 months ago. It's ok to feel angry. Now you are going through the anger stage of a grief process. It takes time.Time will heal all wounds.Slowly you will learn to accept it and move on.
It's not worth it to cry over or lose your sleep because of such person. You deserve someone better. Right now you might not have interest in anything but just try to get youself involved in something. If not you will be thinking of her all the time and it will make things worse.
Do not contact her anymore. Just accept the fact that she will never come back to you. It took me months to accept the fact. I know you can do it as well. Just need some time.
I am recently heartbroken over a 4 year relationship that I cant seem to kick. Everyday new information comes in from family, friends, and co workers about what she is doing now. All mainly from Facebook. I hate that site because a long time ago we discussed that site was trouble. Now that were broken up a month, I hear she has a new boyfriend and living with him a town not to far. It kills me to think that this girl has such a hold on my emotions. She is kinda rubbing it in my face. I cant sleep, I'm crying, I wish she would just disipear. I was so good to her. I mean really good to her, why is she doing this?
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