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Hi sweetcheeks

You will always think that you are ok but then realise that you are not. I experienced that many times. I thought i was ok but then 1-2 days later relapsed.It really takes time. There's a few stages of grief. 1st step is denial, then anger and slowly at the end acceptance.

This is the 1st time i have my heartbroken. But i admit i have broken people's heart before and therefore i always tell myself this is God punishing me. Retribution. I really regret but it's too late. I always ask God how long more i need to suffer to payback the things i've done last time. Really hurts. Why cant certain people be given 2nd chance??

I know it's very hard not to contact the person. I am not as strong as you. I do sometimes call her just want to hear her voice. Sometimes she's just cold towards me sometimes she's ok. I am trying not to call her that often. I guess it's a good start. Pls keep me in your prayers.

Hi sweetcheeks

It takes time. For some people maybe years some people months. It depends on the severity of the breakup. I know mind will take a lot more time.

It's good to hear that ur attending exercises classes. Exercises will make you feel better. Another way to cope with the trauma is by having someone close to you to share your problems. Like in your case it's your best fren which is good.

Sad to say i am still in contact with her. I guess i am too weak to cut off everything.

The mark thing is just to see and assess your progress. No really to help. I am reading a book titled “The love trauma syndrome: How to free yourself from a broken heart” I guess it doesn't help much.

I can see your making some progress. You will be healed soon. Just takes time. Be patient.

Hi sweetcheeks

It's been happening to me for 5 months. I still have this early morning awakening. I can't help it. That's why i sleep early cause i know i will sure wake up at 5.30am every morning.

It is impossible to stop thinking about him that's for sure. Till now i am still thinking of her everyday. Every minute of my life non stop from the moment i open my eyes till the moment i close my eyes to sleep. It's hard. I try not to think. I'll try to think all the bad stuff bout her and what will happen if we were to be together. Maybe things wont go out well…..etc. All the negative stuff about that person. It helps a little bit.

I've also lost weight. Few kg in a few months. Just try to eat although no appetite. If you cant eat a lot try eating small amounts but more frequent meals. Go for your favourite food.

The fact that she's going to get married soon made me give up on her although i still love her very much. I pray to God to give me strength. I guess with family and fren support you will be able to make it. Maybe you can go for relaxation exercise or class to make you better. Just keep yourself busy.

Exercise is good as it gives out endorphins that will make us feel better.

There's another thing that can keep track of your progress that i thought of. Maybe you can give yourself a scoring system. When you achieve 100 marks that will be the day you dont think of him at all. So you have different marks on different days. More marks when you think less of him and vice versa.

For example yesterday i got 20 marks but today it became 15.

Hope you will get better.

Ken

sweetcheeks said:

Hi Jesse,

Mine is a similar situation to yours except I knew for all the 6 years I was with my boyfriend that he was going to marry someone else eventually.

I am the same in the mornings, but I wake up much earlier than I usually would feeling physically sick with my stomach in knots and unable to get back to sleep because of this feeling and thinking of him, it's the worst feeling in the world and I cannot wait for it to go away.

xx

Hi sweetcheeks

I am having the same symptoms as you. After the breakup, i wake up earlier than usual and have difficulty going back to sleep. Sometimes i wake up in the middle of the night and thinking of her makes me unable to go back to sleep. I checked out this early morning awakening and it;s actually a symptoms of depression.

Try not to think of him and i am sure you will be able to get back to sleep.

Ken