I met my love while in CA figuring out my life. A friend brought him to a yoga class we were taking. He told me he fell in love with me the moment he met me. We continued to talk when I came home, and we made plans to see each other. I probably exchanged over 10000 texts and phone calls every day in our 4 month love affair. I fell head over heals for him. He was a match for me on so many levels. I fell in love with him even before we were physical with one another.

The number one issue for us was distance and having children I could not move, he made many comments that led me to believe he would move here for me, and then within a blink of an eye that conversation was off the table. I was sad and a bit wounded, but decided I could weather the distance because I loved him
So much. Eventually, I realized that what I wanted a present every day relationship was not possible between us.

I chose to walk away in the midst of being madly in love. We tried the friend think for a while, but I realized that I could not love forward when I talked at almost the same frequency with him. I ended our friendship a week ago. I am
Seized with moments of great sadness, but I know I have made the best decision for me. I literally have to do everything in my power to not reach out.

I believe in love. But, I Aldo know that it brings the risk of the pain of loss.

I am at office and just has a hard day at work. Feeling down and don’t know how to work things out.

My husband n me share a 7 year relationship. Now things have really got out of hand. He lied about his financial status before getting married and after a years marriage when I was pregnant 7 months with our first child he informed me that he could not bring any salary home since all his salary was engulfed into loans. All the time when I asked for his pay he would always say later and make excuses. Even the rent and other stuff would be pending for payment. Huge amounts and I had to make the payments. Even after 7 years he is still in this position and hardly can help around the expenses. I have always been patient and understanding but now I can’t tolerate it. However though I think of splitting up I still find myself unable to do it and with our second child. I don’t know what to do?

Most of the time it’s his mistake but he is putting on moods and wan’t me to be caring and do what ever he says. He has never been there for us. I don’t mean the money I mean there for us when we need him. I know in this case a divorce is the best thing, but my heart is not willing.

What should I do.

Thanks…

Anyways, it’s been a very rocky road since then. Our first serious argument came about 5 days after getting back together. He introduced me to a couple of his friends and pointed out my bust to them right in front of me. I told him that made me uncomfortable and to not do that again but he did it an hour later with another friend. He then got mad at ME when I told him it made me upset and refused to talk to me for a bit.

The second argument happened when my doctor told me I might have diabetes, I was feeling extremely down. You see, my bf likes to debate politics (which we don’t agree on) so he kept trying to force his views on me. I got very upset with him and told him I wasn’t in the mood. I mean, he didn’t even ask me about my doctor’s visit or anything. How could he be so selfish?

Our third real argument came yesterday (a week later) when I told him that he hasn’t been affectionate with me at all in the last 2 weeks, and that it bothered me. He got very angry and said he was having a bad day and told me to eff off twice. I was completely heart broken. Not only did I worry about him and this bad day of his but was seriously stunned by the way he reacted to me saying he hasn’t been affectionate at all.

One common theme all our arguments have had is that it is ME that keeps apologizing to him, even though I know I shouldn’t, he should be apologizing to me for the way he behaves. Honestly I feel if he had been treating me better I wouldn’t need to confront him on anything, but I’ve been heart broken too many times to just take on a passive role.

I know it’s going to end soon, the relationship is very dysfunctional, I just don’t know if it’s going to be him or me. It hurts, but I know I will get over it with enough time and no contact.

I only found this site, because I was sat in my room staring at my computer thinking about him all the time and just wanted to get rid of the emptiness and the pain, so I googled: ‘How do you mend a broken heart?’ and here I am. It has given me so much warmth to see others talking of their experiences and to see what they are also going through. I have found it so hard trying to talk to my family and friends because they are so flippant about me getting over it all. In the last two months, I lost my job, my home, and then my man. He finally said that he didnt want marriage or children in the future after previously convincing me that he did, and now I feel so muddled and confused and directionless. I feel that he had been the centre of my life, and now I do not know what to do with it! I know I sounds ridiculous, but I wanted him to be my life…

I’ve been pondering on what exactly to do about my situation.
I just know my heart’s aching:
I cry randomly, get angry for no reason, can’t sleep well…
It’s obviously aching and I know why. Yet, I don’t know exactly what steps to take to be healed.

In my case, it’s me seemingly “starting” a company with my ex
And it’s not just an ordinary “ex”…
It was a short relationship and he went back to his ex.
Now, this new company is born.
Been considering leaving and starting afresh (which is going to affect me and him)
But I’ve been “starting afresh” too often (goals and accompliments).
I’m afraid of losing something that has the potential of “lasting” (how I arrived at that forecast, I don’t know)
I’ve been feeling used for a while.
But I really want this company (which affects my career) to work,
Though I’m paying with my heart – hurting daily.
Seeing him answer call from his “supposed ex”… Burns me. I’m trying to put it all behind me, but is it possible when it’s all in one’s face and we have to work as a team?