Comments on: Step 4: Choose your Theme

By: Rebekkah

Rebekkah — Sun, 16 May 2010 12:32:12 +0000

I think P!nk’s album ‘Funhouse’ should be on here. Helped me get through life. ♥

By: GaLGoThA

GaLGoThA — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:48:45 +0000

Amanda… don’t do it. I had to turn down a proposal once… it was the hardest thing I’d ever done up till then, because I was so in love with this guy and we’d been together in an unhealthy relationship for about 5 years. He was my ‘first’ which made it even harder, if you can imagine that. But it proved to be the best thing I’d ever done to NOT accept his proposal because, though he thought he was doing the right thing at the time, he was wrong. There are an infinite number of reasons why people want to marry. Not all of them are the right reasons. So don’t be shocked that ‘he was different this time’. He is not ready. Everything you’ve written up till now makes this fact VERY clear. So just because he proposes, doesn’t mean it’s what he really wants. It is more likely that his motives for asking you are immature and selfish. Don’t be distracted by this. Look at your history together. Marriage will NOT correct these problems, but only magnify them as life together will become more & more unbearable for the both of you.

By: amanda

amanda — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 05:18:17 +0000

this is mee once again… so edwin my “bf” proposed to me and said he wants to marry me? what should i do… he has been acting diff like he really wants to be with me? so confused he has never acted this way

By: amanda

amanda — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 20:34:27 +0000

thanks this is very helpful. all of my friends tell me that i shouldn’t talk to him anymore. my best friend is his cousin and she knows him more then me… He sits here and acts like he cares so much when he is feeling lonely and and then when he comes home he wants nothing to do with me …. i don’t get it. i’m so confused… every things messed up right now… idk what to think anymore my heart already hurts.. i feel like it’s too late already… and i can’t seem to get rid of this boy.. every time i break up with him he comes crying back to me the next day… I believe he has some sort of feeling for me.. but at the same time i feel like his rebound. I am always gonna run in to him all the time so it’s hard to stay broken up. He aways convinces me otherwise. Idk anymore.. my best friend keeps telling me to ignore him and to not take him back… but i aways take him back because i love him.. it’s pathetic. I can’t let the emotions of me getting hurt take control of whats the right thing. instead i keep dreading this whole thing and hopeing one day he will change and one day he will care. and that’s never gonna happen. it hurts so bad…

By: GaLGoThA

GaLGoThA — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 02:03:45 +0000

Amanda… girl, I really sympathize with the way you’re feeling… (I’ve been there) but this is so not good. I can already see the heartache heading your way. Being with a boy who’s sitting on the fence is a clear sign that things will not go well between the two of you over the long haul. It’s just best to just muster up all the strength you can, boost that self-esteem (even if you feel you don’t have any… force it!), and just walk the other way. It’ll be really painful at first, because it always is, but believe me… you’ll be doing the right thing. Be a strong woman, and show that you mean it. Show that you don’t need to put up with anyone’s indecision. Raise your standards because there are better men out there, who are much more mature and who know what it means to be in a mutual relationship with someone they love. This guy clearly doesn’t love you unconditionally, and doesn’t appear to know what he wants… he sounds double-minded and so unsure of himself, as well as your relationship, if that’s what this is… and this will continue to drive you crazy. It will not get better from here, so stop hoping that he’ll change. Take your cue from the way he is behaving right now. Best to take the advice of someone who’s been there, and just walk. I’m sure all your friends are telling you the same thing. Listen to the people who really love and care for YOU. Friends who really love you don’t want to see you hurting yourself. They’re outside of the situation, and can often see clearer because they aren’t being dragged through the mud with their emotions. Emotions can be your enemy sometimes, so think with your head and tell those damn emotions to take a back seat on this one!! I’m really hoping for the best for you… please take care of yourself first!!

By: amanda

amanda — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 03:07:13 +0000

okk so we worked things out finally and he came back from college for a week and we were together for the whole week. but he saw his ex girlfriend the day before we got back together. and it was very upsetting considering i wouldn’t hang out with my ex. but now he is cback at college. and he has been ignoring me this whole time and i told him i wanted him to pay more attention to me and he said that he is sorry he is just sick.. which normally he pays attention and calls me but all week he hasn’t called. only texted me. so idk whats going on but i told him he is pushing me away and he sits there and says that he loves me so very much and that he doesnt wanna wanna loose me. idk this relatonship is killing me inside because i love him and i guess i expect more then he gives me.. because im used to getting attention. ifk what to do should i just deal with the fact that he is at college or should i not be with him.??

By: Jenny

Jenny — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 23:45:36 +0000

Hi I’m jen. I need some help for you guys. I was dating someone for three years, let’s call him Mike.Mike & I spoke to each other first before we jump the gun and went on a first date,Then suddenly.If you wanna know the person you have to take alot of time with the girl right?But you know what?? He was spending alot of time with his friends.Than to me..And you know what.All i feel is MIKE IS NOT SERIOUS TO ME =( I tried to ask him if he was serious.All he said yes i am.But im too sorry im always busy working and i need to go hang out with my friends also.But you know.Me and that guy.We were like going out once a week.So you know i feel jealous also.And i don’t feel for his effort.Then MARCH 01,2010.Me and michael talked about this,And he told me this…..
Jen im so sorry.I really care for you and your pretty cool.And your to nice with me.But im can’t be in a relationship.Because i don’t wanna hurt you.And i im sure im not gonna be a perfect boyfriend for you! But this is not the end of the road and the world.Maybe god put us in a same places and it means maybe destiny bring back on together again.But u know guys.I wanna get died soon as i can.It really hurt so much hurt.. help me please.

By: Natalie

Natalie — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 18:00:09 +0000

Amanda, My best friend did something very similar to me! I know exactly how you feel. I don’t understand what this guys deal is. If he is so pissed at you, then why would he want to even hang out with you? Everyday you feel a little bit better when you are heartbroken ONLY IF YOU DON’T SEE HIM! Being around him is going to make you hurt more and you will never heal. You had sex with those two guys when you two were broken up. I met someone when my boyfriend and I were broken up and when we got back together I didn’t tell him about it. My best friend did tell him when her and I got into a huge fight. He was horrible to me when he found out, but I didn’t understand why because he was seeing someone else also. Some men are messed up and when they do things wrong its ok, but when we do things wrong, its the end of the world. My heart goes out to you girl….I completely understand how you feel!

By: amanda

amanda — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 22:14:54 +0000

this is my problem: So me and me ex just broke up today. we have been on and off for 3 years. his ex jenn kept getting in the relationship and he would leave me for her.. So one day he asked me back out and then left me and we were not together for like a month. I had sex with two guys… then he asked me out again so i said yes because i love him so much… Now my “best friend” sat there and told him i had sex with these two guys.. which i didn’t tell him because he would flip a shit.. and i denied it cause i was afraid he would leave me again.. and finally today after spending all week with him and valentines day i thought everything was alright we were happy, he goes back to college… and i get a text from him this morning that im a bitch for lying to him.. i finaly manned up and told him that i did. and he flipped out because i lied to him.. It hurt to lie to him when he asked but i didn’t want him to leave and now im stuck here crying my eyes out because he broke up with me anyways! i know it was messed up to have sex with those two guys then lie about it.. idk what to do he hates me now! he was gonna get an a on his arm for me because i got an e. now he wont even get it! he tells me he will never date me again, but he is coming home over the weekend again for a whole week. he said he wants to see me at some point. it’s going to kill me to see him! i love him so much and he wants to chill with me i cant sit there and chill with someone i love knowing that i can never have him again! and he sits there and tells me im a liar and im fucked up when he lied to me multipul times about his ex and stuff and hurt me so much and i always was there when he came back even when i was dating other ppl i’d break up with them for this boy! he just recently told me he wanted a kid with me and that he wanted to marry me and we were trying and now i might be pregnant with his kid and he told me now that if i am he wants nothing to do with it that i need to get an abortion im so heart broken! my best friend just fucked me over!! i would never do that to her! idk what too dooo!!!

By: nikita

nikita — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 22:16:42 +0000

im just after breaking up wit my boyvriend of 2 an a half years when we first met i was madly in love with but he really seem bothred by our relationship. i have a son from a previous relationship abd he was great wit him… we moved into gethered and it seemed like all we did was aruge in the house in the mean time i ended up pregant and had a baby boy….. things between us didnt get any better now our son is 6 mnts old and ive spilt up wit him im hurting so much not just for my self but my poor kids my heart is breaking altough i know this is the right thing to do for us as well as the kids …… i feel sp lost in my life now an things get better????