Comments on: Step 5: Change it Up http://www.healmybrokenheart.com Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:01:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Elena http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/boxitup/comment-page-6#comment-2885 Elena Wed, 08 Sep 2010 00:42:34 +0000 http://smartbreakups.com/?page_id=115#comment-2885 It has helped so much to read each of your stories, to see how similar we are in the experience of such overwhelming pain and loss. Thank you for sharing. When my boyfriend left, I fairly quickly changed the bed linen, rearranged furniture, and talked to as many friends as possible to get the pain out. The uncontrollable emotions and nausea have been so unbearable at times. But making some of these minor changes have actually helped. I haven't yet thrown out the emails I've kept, but I think I'm finally read to do that now. It's time. There are no easy answers, per se, but I do believe Amelies' steps have made a HUGE difference for me and I hope they will for you if you continue to follow them. There is someone else out there for each of us! It has helped so much to read each of your stories, to see how similar we are in the experience of such overwhelming pain and loss. Thank you for sharing. When my boyfriend left, I fairly quickly changed the bed linen, rearranged furniture, and talked to as many friends as possible to get the pain out. The uncontrollable emotions and nausea have been so unbearable at times. But making some of these minor changes have actually helped. I haven’t yet thrown out the emails I’ve kept, but I think I’m finally read to do that now. It’s time. There are no easy answers, per se, but I do believe Amelies’ steps have made a HUGE difference for me and I hope they will for you if you continue to follow them. There is someone else out there for each of us!

]]> By: Vicki http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/boxitup/comment-page-6#comment-2852 Vicki Sat, 04 Sep 2010 18:48:29 +0000 http://smartbreakups.com/?page_id=115#comment-2852 I want everyone to remember these to sayings.... "If you settle for less than what you deserve, Then you will ALWAYS get less than what you settled for" "Good things fall apart so better things can fall together" With love and healing hearts to everyone...V I want everyone to remember these to sayings….

“If you settle for less than what you deserve, Then you will ALWAYS get less than what you settled for”

“Good things fall apart so better things can fall together”

With love and healing hearts to everyone…V

]]> By: Brent http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/boxitup/comment-page-6#comment-2793 Brent Sun, 29 Aug 2010 04:21:11 +0000 http://smartbreakups.com/?page_id=115#comment-2793 What if your spouse cheated in your house.......How can you mend the mess? What if your spouse cheated in your house…….How can you mend the mess?

]]> By: Sara http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/boxitup/comment-page-6#comment-2751 Sara Mon, 23 Aug 2010 06:20:40 +0000 http://smartbreakups.com/?page_id=115#comment-2751 It has been 42 days. We lived together in his house so I had to move out. I went to bed one night woke up the next morning and I never slept in that bed again. He told me during an arguement that he was done with us. I painted the house, decorated it, picked out the furniture etc. I moved in with friends that weekend and then lost my job that following Friday. Now I am moving across the country to be closer to my family. My stuff is in storage, I had to get rid of most of it due to the cost of moving 2,000 miles. I can barely get through the day. I told him not to contact me anymore, no texts, calls, etc. He was trying to be nice but it was depressing me. I lost everything and he just stayed there in that house with his job and our friends. I feel like garbage that got thrown away. It has been 42 days. We lived together in his house so I had to move out. I went to bed one night woke up the next morning and I never slept in that bed again. He told me during an arguement that he was done with us. I painted the house, decorated it, picked out the furniture etc. I moved in with friends that weekend and then lost my job that following Friday. Now I am moving across the country to be closer to my family. My stuff is in storage, I had to get rid of most of it due to the cost of moving 2,000 miles. I can barely get through the day. I told him not to contact me anymore, no texts, calls, etc. He was trying to be nice but it was depressing me. I lost everything and he just stayed there in that house with his job and our friends. I feel like garbage that got thrown away.

]]> By: melanie http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/boxitup/comment-page-6#comment-2705 melanie Fri, 13 Aug 2010 23:46:06 +0000 http://smartbreakups.com/?page_id=115#comment-2705 nina - it is so good to hear that someone else feels the same. I've put away all the pictures, changed some stuff, but nothing changes the fact that for my kids and myself somone is missing. Someone who should be there. I went to my cousins for the weekend and even though my husband had never been there she dished up diiner for six instead of five. She dished up dinner for my husband and she said it feels like someone is missing. If he had died at least i would have known what we had was real. Now i jus dont know what to think. nina – it is so good to hear that someone else feels the same. I’ve put away all the pictures, changed some stuff, but nothing changes the fact that for my kids and myself somone is missing. Someone who should be there. I went to my cousins for the weekend and even though my husband had never been there she dished up diiner for six instead of five. She dished up dinner for my husband and she said it feels like someone is missing. If he had died at least i would have known what we had was real. Now i jus dont know what to think.

]]> By: Karissa http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/boxitup/comment-page-6#comment-2659 Karissa Sun, 08 Aug 2010 20:00:11 +0000 http://smartbreakups.com/?page_id=115#comment-2659 It's been 5 months since my Ex and I broke up...we only went out for 4 but it was a very intense relationship (i thought from both of us but now realize it must have been only from mine) which was very smooth and loving. He was several years younger than me which I was skeptical about and for that reason I confided in him from the beginning about my fears of age difference, etc. He was always positive and very supportive with things and he was my best friend in a new country (i moved for work and we both met as expats). Soon our circles (friends, everyday life etc) became one and everyone knew he was very proud of me. I was very surprised he never had any complaints but after 4 months we reached a point where it was stagnant. He even told me he loved me but then took it back. You could feel the relationship at a standstill and once I began trying to figure out problems he completely disappeared (basically broke up with me via skype and no contact). Because I was very set on not "harassing him" and giving him space I waited until he figured things out. After two weeks he came and told me he is happy with the decision and i havent been myself since. Since we have mutual friends I have tried to be very civil with him and we actually were quite nice for a while (even kissed a couple of times). Then one day he completely changed and any feelings or sensitivity were gone. He began completely flirting in front of me, and now is dating a friend from the mutual circle. He knows how much that hurts me but completely avoids me and doesn't want anything to do with me though we are in the same circle of friends. Today I accidentally ran into "them" having lunch with friends and as I passed by saw me and then completely point blank looked away and ignored me as if i was a stranger. At this point i feel like i have to change my whole life and friends around because i was replaced by the new girl who is now friends with everyone and whenever i attend everything just seems awkward. I've never had an ex treat me that way and forget me so quickly (even though its been five months for the official break up, we still were emotional and somewhat physical up until a month ago). Because of this experience i feel like the least attractive and unwanted person in the world. I'm afraid to live my life in this new city because im afraid of running into "them." Images of them and him can't get out of my mind and worse of all i feel like i absolutely didnt matter to him and he is rejecting me as a person/friend (forget romantically cause thats obvious he doesnt want me). In fact sometimes i feel disgust from him as if he is embarrassed that he knows me and when he is surrounded by this new girl and friends i feel as if they are all feeling pity and are laughing at me. I try to be nice to dispel the awkwardness at those times and avoid him thinking that im an "angry ex" but it just keeps getting worse. It is the worst feeling when you love someone and want to forgive them and move on but they don't flinch and show a side of them that you never imagined possible, when they just don't care and even hate you. This situation just feel hopeless to me and i cant imagine a good end to it :( It’s been 5 months since my Ex and I broke up…we only went out for 4 but it was a very intense relationship (i thought from both of us but now realize it must have been only from mine) which was very smooth and loving. He was several years younger than me which I was skeptical about and for that reason I confided in him from the beginning about my fears of age difference, etc. He was always positive and very supportive with things and he was my best friend in a new country (i moved for work and we both met as expats). Soon our circles (friends, everyday life etc) became one and everyone knew he was very proud of me. I was very surprised he never had any complaints but after 4 months we reached a point where it was stagnant. He even told me he loved me but then took it back. You could feel the relationship at a standstill and once I began trying to figure out problems he completely disappeared (basically broke up with me via skype and no contact). Because I was very set on not “harassing him” and giving him space I waited until he figured things out. After two weeks he came and told me he is happy with the decision and i havent been myself since. Since we have mutual friends I have tried to be very civil with him and we actually were quite nice for a while (even kissed a couple of times). Then one day he completely changed and any feelings or sensitivity were gone. He began completely flirting in front of me, and now is dating a friend from the mutual circle. He knows how much that hurts me but completely avoids me and doesn’t want anything to do with me though we are in the same circle of friends. Today I accidentally ran into “them” having lunch with friends and as I passed by saw me and then completely point blank looked away and ignored me as if i was a stranger. At this point i feel like i have to change my whole life and friends around because i was replaced by the new girl who is now friends with everyone and whenever i attend everything just seems awkward. I’ve never had an ex treat me that way and forget me so quickly (even though its been five months for the official break up, we still were emotional and somewhat physical up until a month ago). Because of this experience i feel like the least attractive and unwanted person in the world. I’m afraid to live my life in this new city because im afraid of running into “them.” Images of them and him can’t get out of my mind and worse of all i feel like i absolutely didnt matter to him and he is rejecting me as a person/friend (forget romantically cause thats obvious he doesnt want me). In fact sometimes i feel disgust from him as if he is embarrassed that he knows me and when he is surrounded by this new girl and friends i feel as if they are all feeling pity and are laughing at me. I try to be nice to dispel the awkwardness at those times and avoid him thinking that im an “angry ex” but it just keeps getting worse. It is the worst feeling when you love someone and want to forgive them and move on but they don’t flinch and show a side of them that you never imagined possible, when they just don’t care and even hate you. This situation just feel hopeless to me and i cant imagine a good end to it :(

]]> By: Claudia http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/boxitup/comment-page-6#comment-2561 Claudia Fri, 16 Jul 2010 10:42:15 +0000 http://smartbreakups.com/?page_id=115#comment-2561 >>>TO SUZANNE<<<< Please Suzanne, don’t drink and smoke to distract your pain. I have done this in the past, and the ONLY person who suffers the consequences of mistreating your body is YOURSELF. You need to nurture your body, not mistreat it. I understand your pain and the feelings that come with rejection and abandonment. You are probably thinking his wife is better than you in many different ways and that is why he’s probably with her. It is really not the case, I guarantee you that. This man is ONLY thinking about his needs. He probably doesn’t have self-love and gets his satisfaction from external love. Even if it is at the expense of breaking somebody’s heart, in this case, yours. When you have self-love and self-respect, you emanate that to other people in your life. He is LOST, and the cycle will continue unless he addresses the brokenness that he has inside his heart. Only a heart that is severely broken has the ability to break other people’s heart. A whole/healthy person would NEVER do that to another human being. Sweetie, you are a whole person and when you were born you came into the world on your own. When you were a child, you didn’t need a boy to make you happy, remember? Let’s think about that time we were children and life amused us in many ways. Children have the ability to just live in the make-believe time and they are just happy as happy can be playing along WITHOUT co-depending on other children to be happy. Go back to the basics, think of the love that you have in your life from different sources. I know you crave the romantic love, attention, and the thought of “belonging” to someone. But you know what? We belong to the UNIVERSE, and most of all we belong to OURSELVES. I know you FEEL you don’t have the strength to do things that will make you heal faster. But the strength is there, Suzanne. You need to reach inward like Amelie says. You need to take the steps to heal fast. Just like any other program, take one step at a time. Babies crawl before they walk. So, start crawling towards healing. Surround yourself with people who will help you through this journey. Write down how you want your life to be. Be like children, make believe you are healing right now. Take the first “baby crawl step” and do one thing everyday that will make you feel better about yourself. On my case, I’ve been journaling, taking to all friends about my pain and letting them counsel me. I have opened myself to the universe and what is meant to be will be. Listen to inspirational recordings, listen to Amelie’s webcasts, read the postings, and be grateful that you loved and lost. Would you rather just go thru life without knowing how beautiful love is? You will love again and you will find the one who loves you back without having to share him with another woman. Most of all, Suzanne, remember that you can never loose what you never had. This man doesn’t deserve you and he will keep doing this dance if you allow him. He doesn’t love you nor his wife. He doesn’t even love himself. This is the opportunity for you to address the real root cause of the pain you are feeling. I guarantee you it is not only because of him. When we hurt so badly after a break up, we are hurting also because of all the other break ups and rejections we had in our lives. Address and confront the pain, what you resist, persists. Feel the pain, be aware of where it is coming from and take the steps to address it and heal. I am grateful I have found this resource and that Amelie has brought all of us together. Even tough it’s thru pain, this is an opportunity for us to grow into better people. STAY STRONG! I will pray for all of us to heal and become the people we are meant to be! With love to all of you, Claudia >>>TO SUZANNE<<<<

Please Suzanne, don’t drink and smoke to distract your pain. I have done this in the past, and the ONLY person who suffers the consequences of mistreating your body is YOURSELF. You need to nurture your body, not mistreat it. I understand your pain and the feelings that come with rejection and abandonment. You are probably thinking his wife is better than you in many different ways and that is why he’s probably with her. It is really not the case, I guarantee you that. This man is ONLY thinking about his needs. He probably doesn’t have self-love and gets his satisfaction from external love. Even if it is at the expense of breaking somebody’s heart, in this case, yours.

When you have self-love and self-respect, you emanate that to other people in your life. He is LOST, and the cycle will continue unless he addresses the brokenness that he has inside his heart. Only a heart that is severely broken has the ability to break other people’s heart. A whole/healthy person would NEVER do that to another human being.

Sweetie, you are a whole person and when you were born you came into the world on your own. When you were a child, you didn’t need a boy to make you happy, remember? Let’s think about that time we were children and life amused us in many ways. Children have the ability to just live in the make-believe time and they are just happy as happy can be playing along WITHOUT co-depending on other children to be happy. Go back to the basics, think of the love that you have in your life from different sources. I know you crave the romantic love, attention, and the thought of “belonging” to someone. But you know what? We belong to the UNIVERSE, and most of all we belong to OURSELVES.

I know you FEEL you don’t have the strength to do things that will make you heal faster. But the strength is there, Suzanne. You need to reach inward like Amelie says. You need to take the steps to heal fast. Just like any other program, take one step at a time. Babies crawl before they walk. So, start crawling towards healing. Surround yourself with people who will help you through this journey. Write down how you want your life to be. Be like children, make believe you are healing right now. Take the first “baby crawl step” and do one thing everyday that will make you feel better about yourself. On my case, I’ve been journaling, taking to all friends about my pain and letting them counsel me. I have opened myself to the universe and what is meant to be will be. Listen to inspirational recordings, listen to Amelie’s webcasts, read the postings, and be grateful that you loved and lost. Would you rather just go thru life without knowing how beautiful love is? You will love again and you will find the one who loves you back without having to share him with another woman.

Most of all, Suzanne, remember that you can never loose what you never had. This man doesn’t deserve you and he will keep doing this dance if you allow him. He doesn’t love you nor his wife. He doesn’t even love himself. This is the opportunity for you to address the real root cause of the pain you are feeling. I guarantee you it is not only because of him. When we hurt so badly after a break up, we are hurting also because of all the other break ups and rejections we had in our lives. Address and confront the pain, what you resist, persists. Feel the pain, be aware of where it is coming from and take the steps to address it and heal.

I am grateful I have found this resource and that Amelie has brought all of us together. Even tough it’s thru pain, this is an opportunity for us to grow into better people. STAY STRONG! I will pray for all of us to heal and become the people we are meant to be!
With love to all of you,
Claudia

]]> By: Carina http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/boxitup/comment-page-6#comment-2381 Carina Tue, 08 Jun 2010 21:03:42 +0000 http://smartbreakups.com/?page_id=115#comment-2381 Hi to all again, Well, i've already exposed my history in the post dec, 10, 2009. The story continued... He came back again, and I've fallen again. We re-started again... But... there is always a but... he, again, started to get far away, not calling me, don't giving me much attention.. He made a trip with his course class, and always told me that stupid girl wasn't going... In the trip he didn't called, I stayed mad, so dissapointed with him. He didn't not missed me... He came to this stupid island again, called me... we went out to talk, he was cold, I was cold. He wanted my hug, give hands.. then told we could not be togheter anymore... He went to university city again... Then I started to discover everything again... She went to the trip, he took her to a ball, where she is he is too... I stayed broken, I was already broken, but I just couldn't stand anymore, not again... He had the courage to call me in our date 1st of May and tell me if we were togheter we would be celebrating, and he thinks of me... bla bla bla... In my aniversary he texted me wishing happiness and saying he was going to adore me forever, and where he goes I'm always with him... 2months passed since we broke up and for this time I don't see him... I have made true progresses... I stoped eating, sleeping, smiling, I wanted to cry so badly... I just wanted to die, thoughts of killing myself passed trough my head... But ending a relationship is a process we have to pass... I've learned to get up, sometimes I fall... Stay sad, Sometimes I miss him... But I'm too good to him... He diserves that girl that like's to flirt online with anyone. Sometimes he calls (2 in 2weeks), i keep answering. He tells me that nothing happened with them, but I don't want to know, i will never be able to forgive all the suffering he made me pass because of his arrogance, felling of superiority, he's a monster for keeping to call me... He knows very well what he is loosing, he knows that more than me he will never find... I loved him more then anything, and by his words "I'm still the most beautifull women he've seen in all his life". I'm stupid for answering his calls, but I don't care anymore... I'm a kinda apatic, with no feelings, just letting the time pass and pass, its another day, and another... I've started getting out at saturdays with a group, in the first night I had a lot of fun, but stayed really drunk, LOOL, was a enough!!! for me... Sometimes I think he must call to annoy me, to keep me in the dark, to keep me waiting, to kee me attached, wishing, loving, waiting... maybe he want's to drive me insane so I can reach the point to kill myself. Last time he told me he was making an album with lots of photos of me, the most beautifulls, and stayed lokking at them and how pretty I am, that he wants to hug me bla bla bla... Stupid conversation, sick person... He doesn't know what he wants... But i'm getting out of this hole... It's hard, wow... so hard... but we have to hv strenght, love each other more... Now I love myself more, I know that I don't want him anymore... I don't want that monster... Time cures all... 2 months are done... Only few days since last call (i don't call anymore :)). Everyday is a battle, we have to occupie our mind doing things we like, things that distract us from this suffering... The pain always stays a bit small... Someday someone will appear, now I don't have found, I'm not ready yet... But I want to be ready... That's why I'm fighting for myself, It's not easy... But I don't want to be a sick person because of a loser, a stupid, a monster... Time make us forget of lots of things Time make us forget the smell of that person Time make us forget the taste of that person Time make us remember of ourselves Time make us look to our heart and believe in us we can do it Hi to all again,

Well, i’ve already exposed my history in the post dec, 10, 2009.

The story continued… He came back again, and I’ve fallen again. We re-started again… But… there is always a but… he, again, started to get far away, not calling me, don’t giving me much attention.. He made a trip with his course class, and always told me that stupid girl wasn’t going… In the trip he didn’t called, I stayed mad, so dissapointed with him. He didn’t not missed me… He came to this stupid island again, called me… we went out to talk, he was cold, I was cold. He wanted my hug, give hands.. then told we could not be togheter anymore… He went to university city again… Then I started to discover everything again… She went to the trip, he took her to a ball, where she is he is too… I stayed broken, I was already broken, but I just couldn’t stand anymore, not again…

He had the courage to call me in our date 1st of May and tell me if we were togheter we would be celebrating, and he thinks of me… bla bla bla… In my aniversary he texted me wishing happiness and saying he was going to adore me forever, and where he goes I’m always with him…

2months passed since we broke up and for this time I don’t see him… I have made true progresses… I stoped eating, sleeping, smiling, I wanted to cry so badly… I just wanted to die, thoughts of killing myself passed trough my head…

But ending a relationship is a process we have to pass… I’ve learned to get up, sometimes I fall… Stay sad, Sometimes I miss him… But I’m too good to him… He diserves that girl that like’s to flirt online with anyone. Sometimes he calls (2 in 2weeks), i keep answering. He tells me that nothing happened with them, but I don’t want to know, i will never be able to forgive all the suffering he made me pass because of his arrogance, felling of superiority, he’s a monster for keeping to call me… He knows very well what he is loosing, he knows that more than me he will never find… I loved him more then anything, and by his words “I’m still the most beautifull women he’ve seen in all his life”. I’m stupid for answering his calls, but I don’t care anymore… I’m a kinda apatic, with no feelings, just letting the time pass and pass, its another day, and another…

I’ve started getting out at saturdays with a group, in the first night I had a lot of fun, but stayed really drunk, LOOL, was a enough!!! for me…

Sometimes I think he must call to annoy me, to keep me in the dark, to keep me waiting, to kee me attached, wishing, loving, waiting… maybe he want’s to drive me insane so I can reach the point to kill myself. Last time he told me he was making an album with lots of photos of me, the most beautifulls, and stayed lokking at them and how pretty I am, that he wants to hug me bla bla bla… Stupid conversation, sick person…

He doesn’t know what he wants… But i’m getting out of this hole… It’s hard, wow… so hard… but we have to hv strenght, love each other more… Now I love myself more, I know that I don’t want him anymore… I don’t want that monster…

Time cures all… 2 months are done… Only few days since last call (i don’t call anymore :) ). Everyday is a battle, we have to occupie our mind doing things we like, things that distract us from this suffering… The pain always stays a bit small… Someday someone will appear, now I don’t have found, I’m not ready yet… But I want to be ready… That’s why I’m fighting for myself, It’s not easy… But I don’t want to be a sick person because of a loser, a stupid, a monster…

Time make us forget of lots of things
Time make us forget the smell of that person
Time make us forget the taste of that person
Time make us remember of ourselves
Time make us look to our heart
and believe in us
we can do it

]]> By: Kristy http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/boxitup/comment-page-6#comment-2380 Kristy Tue, 08 Jun 2010 19:02:19 +0000 http://smartbreakups.com/?page_id=115#comment-2380 To Suzanne: Please use this site and get stronger. He is only going to you because you give him more pleasure than he has at home, and since you keep letting him back, he WILL come. I had a girlfriend that dated the same guy for 4 years and he kept cheating on her. But because she kept forgiving him and letting him back, he kept doing it. I told her he would not stop since she continued to 'allow' him to cheat--that is what she was doing. They finally broke up, but she would still have sex with him on occasion. As long as she did that, she would not be able to move on. Finally, she met someone else that treated her with more respect, and it is 2 years later and they are living together and engaged now! The ex-boyfriend is still doing the same thing he always did, but to other women now. This married man does not respect you, and tells you the things you want to hear so he can have a "safe' place to go when his marriage is on the rocks. Please don't settle! This is the whole reason I am here on this site. I settled for a man that did not respect me 100% and i gave more than I received. This is not a healthy relationship. If you do what Amelie tells you, really put the effort into it, I promise you WILL feel better. It happened to me. Now I am giving back some of what was given to me. Affairs with married men never work out in your favor--I know, I've been there too. They might love you, but they almost NEVER leave the comfort of the home they've created. The only way he will give you 100%, is if a divorce actually happens--that happened to me too, and I was married to him for 8 years. You DO NOT deserve less than 100% from any man. If you allow that, you are settling, and you don't deserve that either! I am a 52 year old woman with lots of experience with failed relationships (including 2 marriages), and I have finally gotten to the point that I know what my problem has been and I am in the process of fixing ALL OF IT. I will not ever settle again! with grace and support, Kris To Suzanne:
Please use this site and get stronger. He is only going to you because you give him more pleasure than he has at home, and since you keep letting him back, he WILL come. I had a girlfriend that dated the same guy for 4 years and he kept cheating on her. But because she kept forgiving him and letting him back, he kept doing it. I told her he would not stop since she continued to ‘allow’ him to cheat–that is what she was doing. They finally broke up, but she would still have sex with him on occasion. As long as she did that, she would not be able to move on. Finally, she met someone else that treated her with more respect, and it is 2 years later and they are living together and engaged now! The ex-boyfriend is still doing the same thing he always did, but to other women now.

This married man does not respect you, and tells you the things you want to hear so he can have a “safe’ place to go when his marriage is on the rocks. Please don’t settle! This is the whole reason I am here on this site. I settled for a man that did not respect me 100% and i gave more than I received. This is not a healthy relationship.

If you do what Amelie tells you, really put the effort into it, I promise you WILL feel better. It happened to me. Now I am giving back some of what was given to me. Affairs with married men never work out in your favor–I know, I’ve been there too. They might love you, but they almost NEVER leave the comfort of the home they’ve created. The only way he will give you 100%, is if a divorce actually happens–that happened to me too, and I was married to him for 8 years. You DO NOT deserve less than 100% from any man. If you allow that, you are settling, and you don’t deserve that either!

I am a 52 year old woman with lots of experience with failed relationships (including 2 marriages), and I have finally gotten to the point that I know what my problem has been and I am in the process of fixing ALL OF IT. I will not ever settle again!

with grace and support,

Kris

]]> By: chrissless http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/boxitup/comment-page-6#comment-2368 chrissless Mon, 07 Jun 2010 23:45:22 +0000 http://smartbreakups.com/?page_id=115#comment-2368 you sound like such a wonderful heart felt woman. this man wants his cake and wants to eat it when he can. so you are the cake dont let him even get a taste of your sweetness until he makes up his mind what he wants to do with his life. he's very insecure and needs someone other then his wife to tell him he is great. as a man don't give anything to him and pull away from him. if its meant to be he will up and leave her for good , don't be there for him nomore, i know its hard, but just stay away from him like a drug oneday at a time. i wish you nothing but love and happiness in your life you deserve someone to give there all to you. good luck honey and if you need me to vent email me at tommy1403@juno.com lots of love to you, tommy you sound like such a wonderful heart felt woman. this man wants his cake and wants to eat it when he can. so you are the cake dont let him even get a taste of your sweetness until he makes up his mind what he wants to do with his life. he’s very insecure and needs someone other then his wife to tell him he is great. as a man don’t give anything to him and pull away from him. if its meant to be he will up and leave her for good , don’t be there for him nomore, i know its hard, but just stay away from him like a drug oneday at a time. i wish you nothing but love and happiness in your life you deserve someone to give there all to you. good luck honey and if you need me to vent email me at tommy1403@juno.com lots of love to you, tommy

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