by Amelie Al on April 15, 2009
How long before you can go about your daily routine without feeling that wave of pain sweep over you, without sensing that knot in the pit of your stomach? If these are some of the questions you are asking yourself, you are not alone.
How long will it last?
Welcome to Heal My Broken Heart. Here’s the harsh reality of it - it’s not easy, but some things will help. The community you have found here will help. Since there is no easy fix, we have created this website with some concrete steps to help you along the way. It has the best thinking available in terms of how to mend a broken heart.
Start with our 10 Steps. These are practical steps, proven to help. Be flexible as you work your way through them. Just as every person is unique; so is every broken heart. Not all of these steps will apply perfectly to every situation. The steps are a guide. Improvise. Adapt. Make them your own.
And take your time. Trying to rush the healing process only defers it. Let yourself feel how you feel. Especially early on. If you want to do absolutely nothing in the first few days – then do just that. When you’re ready to start, these steps will guide you. Ready?
by Amelie & Al on July 2, 2009
The Independence Day holiday has arrived and you are independent. For our international visitors who are not celebrating this holiday, please apply these concepts to any time of year when there is an extended weekend holiday – it can be difficult.
There is general excitement in the workplace leading up to the long weekend. In most traditional offices, the work stops around Tuesday afternoon even though time off doesn’t officially start until Thursday or Friday. While everyone is a buzz with weekend plans, you may be dreading all that time alone. This time of year can evoke thoughts of holidays past with your ex. Although your feelings are natural, you are not going to let the loneliness defeat you. You are going to overcome this adversity. This Independence Day you are going to celebrate your Independence!
Try some of these techniques –
1. Friend/Family BBQ - These are good time suckers and usually offer a variety of guilt-free-because-it’s-a-holiday junk food. One note about the family gatherings- while these congregations are great distractions, watch out for cousin insensitivo who wants to inquire about your singlehood. “How’s that going for you?” they might ask (as if it is a disease as opposed to a state of being.) Please have a prepared answer for this senseless being. “Freedom has its upside. I ate dinner in bed yesterday and watched sports center for 4 hours straight.”
2. Spoil Yourself – Not like a bag of chips. No, really spoil yourself. Try a few hours in a spa or the golf course. Do anything that you find enjoyable. If nothing seems fun anymore, dig back to the last thing you did enjoy on your own. Do it. At least, try it! [click to continue…]
by Amelie Al on April 15, 2009
Welcome to the Heartbreak Hotel. Your partner has just dealt a dagger to your soul, and you are worried you will never recover. He or she was your best friend, your lover; perhaps they occupied a part of your home, most certainly a piece of your heart. And now, the rug has been pulled out from under you. Without them, I am nothing, you fear. You are filled with sorrow—on the fringe of despair. You have broken up.
Dramatic? If you’ve ever suffered from a broken heart, you recognize the grief described is quite real. Trauma endured from a heartbreak can pervade every aspect of one’s life rendering some a prisoner to their own pain. Time irrefutably helps the healing process, yet thankfully, time is neither the only, nor most powerful healing agent.
“We said right from the get-go, NO FALLING! This was a summer fling, only we both fell, and we fell hard. I was the first to see it. It was so very sad when he left. In fact I think I asked him a dozen times to stay. He realized it when he got home and missed me like crazy.” Read full story
I am secretly hoping that he flies out here and asks forgiveness, so that I can tell him to turn around. I don’t think I could take him back, because my heart would never trust him again. Read full story
At Heal my Broken Heart, we offer a collection of hope: real stories shared from real people. These stories chronicle the full spectrum of the break-up process including those who have completely healed to those fresh in the midst of heartbreak. And though each journey is unique, you will find common and relatable elements offering comfort that you are not alone in your suffering, providing practical techniques to accelerate your recovery, and a clearer path to making your heart whole again.
by Amelie Al on May 1, 2009
Have you ever considered whether what you are feeling in your relationship is normal? If the pain you are experiencing from a heartbreak has extended beyond the ordinary period? Now, you may wonder if there is such a thing as ‘normal’ or ‘ordinary’ when it comes to unique relationships. Well, we have found that while it is true that individuals are distinctive in nature, there are enough similarities in people, relationships, and post-break up behavior to derive meaningful information from our commonalities.
Check out the most common causes of a breakup:
1. I was unfaithful 0%
2. He/she was unfaithful 29%
3. Amicable separation 9%
4. Irreconcilable differences 23%
5. Angry breakup 3%
6. Still friends 14%
7. Still lovers 3%
8. Just drifted apart 6%
9. Not sure what happened 14%
Survey provided by topdatingtips.com
If you have ever suffered from a broken heart, we would love for you to take our short 10-question survey today. Contribute to our collective knowledge base and help others understand relationship behavior! Results will be posted shortly.
